If you are reading this you’ve probably been through a bad relationship a few times. Maybe it took you a few years to even realize that it couldn’t be just bad luck, that there is a recurring relationship pattern happening over and over again.
While some people around you seem to have found the one years ago, you are still single because of all your broken and misfit relationships. Maybe you’ve even managed to have found someone that seemed to be different from your past partners at last, but somehow you’ve lost that one too.
Maybe you’ve been asking yourself, Why do I keep being miserable in relationships? Is there something against me? Am I such a bad person? Am I not deserving of romantic happiness?
Well, I can reassure you, there’s nothing that’s trying to hurt you. No, you’re not a bad person, and yes, you deserve to meet the man of your life and be happy. Now, because I coach specifically women, I’m speaking to women here, but if you are a man reading this, the exact same rules will apply to you as well.
In this article, I’m going to explain to you why you’ve been in a negative treadmill of bad relationships and what you can start doing today to change this fact.
When Your Relationship Pattern Started
Do you think that your relationship pattern started when you were in your late teens or early twenties? Or maybe whenever you started having a relationship? Well, if this is what you believe, you couldn’t be more wrong.
Not only our romantic relationship patterns, but everything else in life started in the first decade of our lives. When our subconscious mind was being programmed and when we had no idea this was happening. The two major places where your subconscious mind was programmed was home and school.
The way your parents treated each other, the way they acted towards you, and the way you were dealt with in school by your teachers and peers, all of that affected you to the deepest depth of your being which is your subconscious mind.
This is when you “created” your relationship pattern. Not consciously of course, but it was done for you by other people, experiences and other events. Eventually, they became beliefs. Whether they were positive or negative.
For example, in my case, I was the victim of bullying for the better part of my primary and secondary school years. There I’ve learned disrespect and rejection. Loneliness and isolation were my companions. Would you be surprised if I told you that those negative experiences affected my relationship life?
You bet they did. And not only my romantic relationships but above and beyond that too.
What does your Relationship Pattern have to do with the Law of Projection?
You know the saying that some people like to use “I’ll believe it when I see it.” Well, nothing could be more incorrect than this. As a matter of fact, our world works the exact opposite way. It’s what we believe that we end up seeing. The reason why still few people know about this it’s because it’s what we believe subconsciously that shows up into our experience.
What I mean by that it’s that you don’t attract what you want, but what you are.
If deep down inside you are someone that is always rejected and left, even though that’s obviously not what you want, that’s what you’ll most probably end up being relationship wise.
You are projecting into the world what you believe, but most importantly what you believe at a subconscious level.
If subconsciously, for you, men are bad, you are going to project that into the universe, and as a result, you are going to always meet such men.
If you believe that you always end up alone, you are going to project that, and always end up with men that leave you.
If you believe that being mistreated is your norm, then again you are going to project that into the universe and your relationship world will always be full of men who will mistreat you.
Our thoughts are like boomerangs. We project them, and they come back with matching experiences, in the form of people, experiences, circumstances, accidents, etc. They never fail. That’s why people tend to always end up with the same type results in life. And it doesn’t work only with relationships, but jobs, money, and anything else you can think of.
Change what you are projecting into the world, and your world will change.
How you can Transform Your Relationship Pattern
The good news is that your relationship pattern, no matter how bad it seems to be right now, doesn’t have to stay this way forever. As a matter of fact, you can twist it starting right now.
The first thing you need to do is take a pause and examine what your relationship pattern is. Then try to figure out where it comes from. Was it at home? In school? Both? Was there a specific person involved?
When you figured that out (this is the part that can be hard to figure out on your own), train your brain to think and believe differently. Tell your brain that all of that is just a big fat lie and that you are going to start believing something different.
Now, it’s worth mentioning that the brain loves what is familiar and hates what’s new, so your brain is going to fight any new belief at first and thus put some kind of invisible fence between it and your subconscious mind. That’s why the best thing that anyone can do to overcome this challenge is repetition. In fact, not only repetition during day time, but if you could do some work while you sleep as well, this could really accelerate the process.
It won’t happen overnight, but eventually, you’ll be able to reprogram your subconscious mind using your conscious mind.
If you are interested in changing your negative relationship pattern and don’t feel like you can do it alone, let me tell you that I’ve helped many women get over their bad relationship patterns and I can help you too. If you want to know more, you can schedule a free relationship diagnosis with me so I could tell you what I can do for you. No strings attached. First come, first served.
Remember, you are worth it, and you don’t have to live your whole life with a destructive relationship pattern.
thank you for the wonderful article.