Is it hard for you to step out of your comfort zone?
While thinking about what I wanted to discuss in the post, I was thinking how my life has been a long story of stepping out of my comfort zone.
I’ve gotten out of my comfort zone the first time I stepped on a theater’s stage.
I’ve gotten out of my comfort zone when I moved out of my mother’s house the first time at age 16.
I’ve gotten out of my comfort zone when I moved out of my mother’s house for the second time to move to Paris on my own.
Then again I did it big time when I moved to New York on my own again, and with a still limited English.
There is this thing with me. I love adventures. I love to throw myself into the unknown. And I’m extremely independent. I’ve never been someone who really needed anyone else to do things.
At times, I even think that I am too independent, but life has actually added to that natural tendency of mine.
At this point I think that I’m the most independent I’ve ever been, because of the assurance that getting older gives you on top of it all.
Making Lemonade
When life gives you lemons, make lemonade, right?
I’ve decided to make lemonade with all the lemons that life gave me these past few years. And believe me it has, more than you know.
But I decided to make lemonade, because that’s the only way one can not only keep living, but make the rest of their lives worthwhile.
So, once again, I’m stepping out of my comfort zone, kind of in reverse.
While what I’m about to do is super exciting, of course, it’s also a bit scary and I do have to get out of my comfort zone in order to go for it.
Now is it worth it?
You bet it is.
What I’m about to do I’ve never done before, and I may not do it again.
For the next 6 months or so, I’ll be traveling all over Europe.
Here is how it’s going to unfold for the most part.
In exactly 2 weeks from today, I’ll be flying Scotland.
I’ll be in Glasgow Scotland for two weeks, and then I’ll be going to Ireland for 5 days. While I’ll be in Dublin I’m also planning on taking a day trip/tour from Dublin to the country side of Ireland (I’ve got it all panned out already).
Then, I’ll be in a very affluent town, in England, right outside of Manchester, for a whole month.
From there I intend to visit Manchester of course, and even Liverpool only an hour and half away.
After that I’m going to try to go to France during the month of August. I actually may be in the south ouest of France for the whole month of August, which would be fantastic, but nothing set in stone yet.
If I’m in France in August, it means that I’ll be celebrating my birthday in my birth country, which would be very cool.
Then again I’m supposed to be in Haverfordwest, Pembrokeshire, in Wales (South West shore of the UK) for 10 days in September.
Needless to say that I’ll be trying my best to stay in Europe well beyond September, but that’s a bit too far out for now to know where I’d be exactly. But that’s what so exciting!
Now remember that all of that is happening because I’ve decided to step out of my comfort zone.
Why are People Afraid of Stepping out of their Comfort zone?
For one thing, routine can become very comfortable.
Now good routines that keeps you on track are good, and you should have some for sure, but it’s the merry-go-round routine that you want to pay attention to.
Do you know that even if you don’t like your life right now, you are somewhat comfortable in your routine?
It’s a fact that the brain likes to settle in a routine, because we are rather lazy by nature and we love to settle.
Part of the reason for this is that once we are conditioned, it’s hard to get out of it.
Most people on this planet get up in the morning, go to a job they don’t want to go to, get back home, go to sleep and start over the next day.
I know for me, I’ve never accepted this to be “living” even when I’ve been doing just that.
I’ve always thought that living like this, just sucked. But I can tell you that I’ve been around more people who think that’s an acceptable way of life than people who don’t.
And that’s because people settle for less.
They don’t think that they can do, be or have what they want in life. They’ve never heard about the law of attraction, and how knowing and applying it can change their life.
I’m here to tell you that if you really want to, you can change your life around.
But for that you might have to get out of your comfort zone.
Why you Should Go Beyond your Fears and Step out of your Comfort Zone?
Stepping out of your comfort zone is the only way to grow.
Even if you can’t step out of your comfort zone physically, you can start mentally.
For example, starting a new thinking pattern, is a very easy way to step out of your comfort zone.
Beginning your day with a whole new set of focus and thoughts, and holding on to it for the rest of the day, would be quite a new zone for many, wouldn’t it?
When I really started focusing on good thoughts at least a good 80 % of my day (because we can’t control every single thought we have), for me it was really going out my comfort zone.
Yes, there used to be a time where I was comfortable thinking stinking thoughts, and starting to think positive… things like “my day is going to be wonderful” or “I’m expecting only good things into my day, today,” “I am on top of the world,” and so on… was really uncomfortable at first, actually.
I felt like it was all a joke, and that I was lying to myself.
I thought, I don’t even deserve to think that high!
Who am I to think this way?
So, yes, the simple fact of giving a 180° turn to your daily thoughts can be a total stepping out your comfort zone. because your comfort zone, in this case, is negative thinking.
However, if you’ve never tried that before, you should start NOW.
Give it a try and it will start changing your life the minute you start.
All you have to do is keep doing it.
The more you do it, the more comfortable you’ll become.
Step out of your comfort zone one day at the time.
Are you Living in the Comfort Zone of Working Hard?
Are you in that zone right now?
Are you in the comfort zone that working hard is the answer to your every success?
I’m sorry to disappoint you, but working hard has actually very little to do with success.
Ask any good life coach what they think of the term “working hard” and they’ll all tell you that the more you believe that you have to work hard to get rich, successful and whatever you want to do, be or have, the more you will have to work hard.
But this type of beliefs have been around for so long, that pretty much everybody believes it, except for those who are not working hard and still have all the success and money they will ever want or need.
Do you want to get out of this false comfortable zone?
True success happens when you put yourself in alignment with the universe, much better and faster than if all you do is working hard.
If I think of the best things that I ever done or got in my life, it was NEVER hard.
Actually, in my case, I can say that it’s when things where tough that they only got tougher, because I was working with resistance instead of trying to align myself (my vibrations) with the universe.
Now, let me tell you.
Yes, I’ve “worked hard” these past 7-8 months especially, but not hard in the way that you may be thinking.
I worked harder at understanding the law of attraction, the subconscious mind, and how to be more in alignment with the Universe.
That how I now feel some strong results.
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Hey Sylviane,
This was a powerful post and I do have to admit that stepping out of my comfort zone is a challenge for me, but I do it anyways. Sometimes I stagger because of the fear that’s irking me, but eventually I let go of it and I’m home free.
I would also like to congratulate you on your European opportunity. I know that you’re excited about it, especially going back to your home country. Don’t forget to take some pictures.
Also the study of the law of attraction and the mind is an interesting subject. It’s amazing how much untapped power we have inside of us. For me to tap into this power I do afformations which instead of saying positive statements I ask myself positive questions. This has helped me a lot to refocus what will benefit me.
Thanks for the share Sylviane and I hope you’re having a great week!
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Hi Sherman,
I’m glad that you are able to win over your fears and get out of it gradually.
Yes, I know that you use afformations which is great. We should always use what works best for us.
Thanks, I sure will take dozens and dozens of pictures, and share them.
Thank you for coming, and have a great week.
Hi Sylviane,
You are absolutely right about all that you mentioned 🙂
Most people don’t like moving out of their comfort zones because they are comfortable in the as a tis position, while those who make the effort to move out – achieve things. It’s not easy for everyone to do this, but if you want, anything is possible.
I know your journey’s going to be an exciting one and we wish you the best while you travel all over! Would be a lot of fun for you, and we’d look forward to the lovely pictures, which I am sure you’d keep sharing with us on Facebook and here as well.
Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead 🙂
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Hi Harleena,
It’s true it’s not always easy for everyone to make big changes, but that’s when we need to start attracting different things than what we have in our life. That’s how I got where I was to where I am now.
Yes, I will sure share lots and lots of pictures 🙂
Thank you so much for coming.
Hi Sylviane,
Your post really struck a cord with me. Those pesky lemons, lol…
I don’t know what a comfort zone is anymore. For all my life things have never stayed the same for long. The only comfort zone I’m not willing to sacrifice is my relationship with my wife and kids.
Otherwise, we’ve experienced major transitions in life, business and finances. It seems we’ve experienced much more than the average person that’s for sure.
I’m really excited for you and your upcoming experience. You are going to have some great memories!!!!!
One of these days I want to go to Pembrokeshire. I learned last year that I have a relative that came from there in the mid 1600’s to the new world and settled in Maryland after an indentured servitude. There is even a Purdum, Maryland near Damscus.
I even leaned we have a family crest and perhaps either nobility and/or knights in our ancestry.
So much I want to discover one day.
Great post Sylviane and now you got me dreaming again!!!! lol…
Have a great week and try not to get to excited… (sarcasm).
~ Don Purdum
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Hi Don,
For sure, going out of your comfort zone doesn’t include putting your relationship with your family in jeopardy, that’s not what is meant for 🙂 but it could be taking them on that trip to England, on an adventure 🙂
So, I’m going to go to your ancestor’s land, it seems. Cool. I’ll send you lots of pictures 🙂
It seems that after that trip I’ll know a lot about the UK. So exciting.
There is castle just 45 minutes away from Glasgow in Scotland that I’ve already plan to go visit. I’ve been watching many videos about it already and and part of me is already there. I can’t wait to BE there at this point.
I’m glad you enjoyed this one, my friend, and nice to see you here as always.
Hey Sylviane,
What a great subject you’re sharing because it sounds like to me that you’ve been stepping outside your comfort zone most of your life. Although I’m also very independent, I’m not easily swayed outside mine. Yeah, it sure does feel good there my friend but I have definitely had to force myself to get the heck out of it. You can’t grow as a person or with your business if you’re not willing to take chances and see what’s out there for us.
I’ve done things since leaving corporate America that I never ever imagined that I would. It’s truly amazing and I’m just so thrilled that I did listen to my heart, I understood there was so much more out there for me and I didn’t have to settle. I think that’s what so many people are doing and they are just scared to take chances.
I’m so excited for you with your upcoming adventure and I know you’re going to have so much fun. Can’t wait to hear all about it and see all the awesome pictures I know you’ll be sharing with us of the beautiful countryside and the amazing places you’ll be.
Love this message and thanks for bringing this up. You are the perfect person to be speaking about this because you’ve been living it first hand.
Have a great rest of your week.
~Adrienne
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Hi Adrienne,
I’ve been suck in my life and in this job for over 5 years. During those five years I’ve lived some of the most painful times of my life for sure, but now it’s a new season for me.
It’s funny how so many people are sad to see me leave at my office. A few of them are actually very sad to see me go. One of my coworkers is going to help me with my small move, one is buying my car, and my bedroom and another bought another piece of furniture, so they’re helping me for sure.
A young 20 year old sitting next to me just found my blog and read this post yesterday. He said he loved it, and that I write very well 🙂 It’s so funny 🙂
In two weeks from today I’ll be in Europe, and that’s been such a long time coming for me. Can’t wait. I know that all of that is going to help me grow my business for sure. Once I make that jump, who knows what could happen!
Thanks for coming, Adrienne, and you have a great rest of the day.
Hi Sylviane,
I’m so excited for you and thanks for sharing all the wonderful places you will be traveling to. How much fun is that? I’ve seen the way the LOA has been working for you during the past several months and it only goes to prove it works!
Comfort zone? I don’t have one. I grew out of that a long time ago and now free as a bird. When I made my decision to live by the beach in Maine people thought I was crazy. But I knew it was right for me because I love the ocean and the four seasons. I do adapt very quickly.
Yes, there are times in business when I do something new that is way out of my comfort zone, but I make that decision pretty quickly because I know it is good for me and my business. The first step is the hardest, but being enthusiastic about changes…I love it.
I can’t wait to share your travels with you.
-Donna
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Hi Donna,
Yes, I see that in you for sure. I don’t think you are scared of going out of your comfort zone for sure. When you packed in move not too long ago it took guts. It always takes gut to move away and start something new. Always. But it’s great, and people should do that more often.
As my apartment is getting emptier and emptier it gives me more and more energy to go. I can’t wait at this point 🙂
Looking forward to our hangout with you and the rest of the band. Thanks for coming and sharing.
Ciao, Sylviane,
Awesome share, loved it. You have been very adventurous and independent, and that’s a good thing. Your experiences and world travels have made you a well-rounded person, which is a beautiful thing. 🙂
You’re an expert at leaving your comfort zone, love that about you! Would be so nice for you to celebrate your birthday in France, place of your birth, love it!
We plan on going to Italy in September, forgot to tell you. I just found out, actually. Need to do some paperwork for a house we’re getting. Quick trip, only two weeks, but should be fun anyway.
In a week we’re heading to Miami to renew our Italian passports at the Italian Consulate, which has to be done in person now due to them wanting fingerprints. At least it’s good for 10 years. 🙂
Your trip/travel plans sound wonderful! Wishing you all the very best – traveling safety and a great time as you leave your comfort zone to hop over to the other side of the world. I love Europe, and can’t wait to have more time there.
Have fun!!
Thanks for sharing, my friend, and talk to you soon
˜Carol
Hi Carol,
Yes, going out my comfort zone is not new to me, I’ve done that my whole life 🙂
Wow, so your are going to to Italy, finally. Who knows, I may be able to meet you. In any case, we’ll keep in touch.
Thank you for coming and have a wonderful weekend.
Lemons are often sour, but if you add the right amount of sugar then you get lemonade that can be just the right amount of sweet.
😉
I love lemonade and the metaphor you used. Life is like that, for sure. A nice mix of sweet and sour. This only makes for a richer experience.
🙂
It is great that it sounds as if you have always had an adventurous spirit. This doesn’t come quite as easily to some, but it can be achieved.
I am glad because I know how easily I can get dragged down by my ability to hide amongst my comfort and become afraid to take risks.
If I did that I wouldn’t have taken a chance with my writing because of the fear of rejection.
Thanks to taking a risk I am getting a short story of mine published in an anthology next month. I hope this is the first step toward more in future.
I sometimes still find myself falling back into that comfort zone, but I always seem to pull myself up and out when I want something bad enough.
South of France sounds like one of those chances worth taking.
🙂
The UK doesn’t sound bad either.
Safe travels and I hope to read all about it.
Have a great weekend Sylviane.
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Hi Kerry,
I like your analogy about adding sugar to lemons and how it helps the sour taste to taste sweeter.
Congratulation on your upcoming story. Make sure you let me know when it’s out.
Thank you for coming and you’re doing great.
It usually is that first step that is the hardest and after that it’s smooth(ish) sailing. Despite having moved to another country, leaving my family, friends and comfort zone, there are still times when I’m terrified of change, even little change. It comes with being human, I think, but it’s a constant challenge – one to be overcome. No one does great things when they remain static.
Hi Christina,
Yes, I agree, it’s a constant challenge that one must take once in a while at least. Yes, as humans we like our comfort zone a lot, don’t we?
I see you’ve left everything behind like me, so I know it takes courage. Congratulations.
Hey Sylviane,
I know what it’s like to be in the comfort zone and then let everything go. I worked at a University for 10 years, and then one day I just stopped and started my own business without knowing anything about corporate life. I just thought it was time to do something completely different. It was very hard, and the change was difficult. But it was worth it. My life is so much better now, and things are improving one step at a time.
It sounds awesome to travel to Europe. Too bad you’re not visiting Norway 🙂
Hi Jens,
Good for you. People like you are to be praised, because not too many people do that. But I am not surprised at all that it all worked out for the best for you in the end.
Actually, because of you being here, I’ve just looked up Norway online, and saw some beautiful pictures, I would love to go there some day. And I see that you are not part of the European Union, that’s interesting.
Thanks for coming 🙂
It usually is that first step that is the hardest and after that it’s smooth sailing. Despite having moved to another country, leaving my family, friends and comfort zone, there are still times when I’m terrified of change, even little change. It comes with being human, I think, but it;s a constant challenge – one to be overcome. No one does great things when they remain static.