In a word, yes, but the fact that you do or don’t understand it, has nothing to do with it.
At times we don’t understand it at all, and at times we may even feel that it’s unfair, but it doesn’t mean that it didn’t happen for a reason.
At times such reason could also be a negative one.
The result of some good old negativity, using the law of attraction in a very bad way. Because we forget that it’s always working. It doesn’t have a stop button.
Bottom line is that usually, when something good or bad happens, people are very much unaware of what that reason might be.
But whether you do or don’t understand it, or that’s it’s positive or negative, still doesn’t remove the fact that there’s a reason it happened.
The truth is the sooner you can understand that, the clearer things will become to you.
Do you Think that Everything Happens for a Reason?
Well, one thing I can tell you is that the older I get, the more I’m convinced of that.
Now, the fact that everything happens for a reason, doesn’t mean you’re going to like everything that happens to you. Let’s make that clear.
And one thing you should learn sooner or later (sooner would be better) is that not everything is about you either.
What I mean by that, is that you may be chosen to help someone else for something that is not related to you.
Or someone else could be chosen for something that is not related to them.
I think that’s quite awesome, actually, because at the end of the day, we are one, and we are all related in some kind of way.
The biggest philosophers have understood that, a long time ago, and wrote about it, but for some of us this concept is still new.
We are one, after all, you and I, together we suffer, together exist and forever will recreate each other. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
We expand our consciousness by tuning into the Universal Frequency. Connecting in light for we are all one. Trudy Vesotsky
We are one in all and all in one. There are no men but only the great WE, ONE, invisible and forever. Ayn Rand
I promise, this is not a way out there type article, by the way, but if you feel that it is, maybe you’re simply not ready for this level of topic yet.
But what I’m saying here, is that you’re not an island, what happens to you is not always in direct relation to you, and what happens with or to others may be directly related (linked) to you.
Are you following me?
Are you lost?
Well, if you are, stick with me a little while longer, and you’ll get the point, I promise you.
Why Should you be Aware of these Things?
Most life coaches would tell you that the more you align yourself with the universe, the more you’ll get silent answers to your questions.
The more connected you’ll feel. And the more at peace you’ll be also.
This little feeling, that little voice inside, will become very practical not only for the big things of your life, but for each little details that may lead you from point A to point B.
Once thing that I’ve noticed since I’ve planned on going to Italy, is that every steps that I’ve taken so far that’s leading me to being ready, has works perfectly. Just like a well-adjusted clock.
I’ve taken that as a sign that is telling me – yes, go!
Three Little True Stories
When I went to Atlanta, GA in November to renew my French passport, everything went so smoothly.
Not a single little thing to complain about.
When my French passport arrived at that office in Raleigh, NC, where I live, I had to go pick it up.
I didn’t know the address, so I had to use my GPS to get there. That day it was pouring rain. I hate driving in the rain.
But there was something in me that was telling me, it’s OK.
Pouring rain, unknown address, who cares, you’ll be fine.
I felt unusually calm about the whole thing, and I felt that it was a sign again.
I drove peacefully under the pouring rain (which I usually don’t). I found the perfect parking space, and the first building I got in was where I was supposed to be (even though I couldn’t see the number).
I wasn’t sure what door I had to knock so I called, and it was the door I was standing in front of!
I got in, signed where I had to sign, grabbed my brand new passport and went back home.
~~~*~~~
Then, last week, I had an appointment to renew my American passport.
My appointment was at 2:15 PM, but I was like 30 minutes early, because parking spaces are usually scarce, and you never know how long it’s going to take you to park.
Well, I’d forgotten how easy things are for me these days, so I found a parking space right away.
Thus, I was very early.
As I was waiting, I was actually waiting for someone that was not even there yet. I was earlier than the person who had their appointment before mine.
So, as I was waiting, I started pulling my form and old passport out.
Since the clerk was just standing there waiting for that person, she had plenty of time to realized that I had the wrong form – which by the way was due to wrong instructions – not my fault.
Since that person who had an appointment before me, never showed up, she gave me the right form, and even gave me the exact envelope to send it in.
There again, I could feel that everything was on my side.
She completely took care of everything for me, because I was her ONLY customer the whole time I was there.
I’m not even giving all the little details here, but all I can say is that things and people in some kind of ways, are being organized around me to make sure that everything goes smoothly for me, when it comes to prepare my trip.
I can’t help, but taking it as a sign that I need to be going there.
~~~*~~~
On the other side of the coin, just this past Monday, my blog post – thus “I” – was used to lift a misunderstanding between two people who are good blogging friends of mine.
It was something I had nothing to do or was even aware of.
I was totally outside of the issue, but it seems that the Universe used me to help resolve a misunderstanding between them.
You see, in this case, it wasn’t about me. I was simply an instrument to an end. But not my end, theirs.
Man, that was a story, and I’m actually proud that my blog was chosen to solve the whole thing!
In the case of my passport, because that person who was supposed to be in front of me, never showed up, even gave me plenty of time to show up with the wrong form and still have someone helping me filling out the right from and go as far as putting it in the envelope to be sent out.
That’s why I agree with the belief/fact that we are not alone, and we are not here to solve only OUR problems. At times we help solving others’ problems.
Not Everything is About You!
Not everything is about you.
Not everything is about me.
At times we are used for the good of others.
At times others are used for our own good.
We may or may not be aware of that reason and that we even had be chosen to help someone at all.
But that’s not the point, because the point is that everything happens for a reason.
Not necessarily, YOUR reason.
However, I would say that the more you quiet your mind.
The more you grow.
The more you practice personal development.
The more you meditate.
The more you are going to feel that things and people are appearing in your life for you own good.
People that are serving a positive purpose for you will increase around you, while the ones that are deserving you will tend to fade away.
If you feel that, at this point in your life, you are more surrounded by things, events, circumstances and people that are not helping you at all, but rather kind of pulling you down, then maybe you need to raise your vibrations.
You need to learn how to become more in alignment with the universe.
If you want to learn more about that, why don’t you contact me for your 30 minute Free session?
It’s your call!
In the meantime, please, leave your comments, or questions below!
Hi Sylviane,
Sometimes, everything goes just as we dreamed as and even better. On the other hand, sometimes, things just don’t seem to happen.
Speaking of renewing passport, I had just the opposite experience when I was in India in 2013 December and I had to renew my US visa (well, I’m still not a citizen). It wasn’t a 30 minute drive to go to the US Cosulate, it was an overnight journey and guess what, after I went there, I found out that (just as you had filled the wrong form after being at the counter,) I had filled a wrong form and now I had to come back all the way back home and go yet another day wasting my 3/4 vacation days out of my 3 weeks vacation in just the visa renewal process.
I guess everything happens for a reason and I am yet to figure out what that reason was apart from stealing 3 days of my life in visa renewal process 🙂
But then, life is what happens to you when you are busy making other plans and that fell into the same bucket I guess 🙂
Great stories and thank you for sharing those with us here. Have a great rest of the week!
Regards,
Kumar
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Hi Kumar,
Well, the reason why many people are confused and say, but how can you say that everything happens for a reason, when everything goes wrong at times? Well, it’s because sometimes the REASON why everything goes wrong is because we may have subconscious negative thoughts that created that.
But that is also something many people refuse to believe. But I’ll tell you that someone like Esther Hicks who is an expert on that subject would tell you that’s basically the case in 99.9% of the cases.
So, some people would argue that and say, but I was OK, I’m sure I didn’t have negative thoughts! Well not conscious ones, but most people are not in-tuned with their subconscious anyways, so they wouldn’t know what’s really going on there.
It’s like no battered woman wants to be abused consciously, right? But they sure do subconsciously, that’s why most battered women attract abusive men one after the other.
That’s why personal development can help people so much. The more we understand those things, but better we can catch ourselves in the act 🙂
Thanks for your input, Kumar.
Hi Sylviane.
I agree that we often won’t know what the “reason” is for what happens, to us or to others. I feel that “everything happens for a reason” can sometimes be used as an insensitive cliche when people are in the midst of suffering. It’s interesting to read another perspective, as it sounds like you would find such a sentiment helpful if you were in the middle of a tough time?
I believe that we have to seek the good in the midst of the challenges and difficulties. I prefer to seek after that and use my energy to focus on overcoming and growing in the midst of the situation, rather than trying to provide an answer to the “why” question that it’s so natural for us to ask.
As a Christian I refer to God, rather than to the universe, but the sentiments that you express are ones that many Christians would agree with. This is a conversation that I’ve had many times, usually with Christians! However, I think that often things happen for a reason, but sometimes that reason is no more than because another person has chosen to use their free will in such a way that it impacts negatively on me. I can’t always do anything about that but I can choose how to respond to it. That’s empowering.
I guess it’s the idea that “everything” happens for a reason that I struggle with. The idea that what appears bad is actually always good? Or perhaps that’s not what such a sentiment really means? I definitely think that we need to put our focus on the positives that we can find and to seek to “milk” every challenge we face as much as we can in terms of personal growth. Anyway, despite the fact that I struggle with the term, “everything happens for a reason” I was interested to read your perspective and look forward to anything else you have to say in response to my comment.
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Hi Rachel,
I took the liberty of separating your comment in 3 paragraphs as it was too hard to read as a big chuck. And I wanted to make sure everyone was able to read your great comment.
Oh, I do refer to God quite a lot, and when I say Universe it’s more because I’m writing for everyone out there and I don’t want them to be confused or feel excluded by one word. It’s the same thing. That force above an beyond us all.
You see, the “everything happens for a reason” doesn’t mean that it’s always going to be good for you or me, it means that – it happened for a reason.
For example, as I was telling another reader just before you. It is a known fact that a battered women will attract abusive men. And that’s for a reason.
The reason, why it’s because their subconscious programming is set on attracting people who abuse them. This is usually a programming (like most programmings) that comes from infancy. Maybe their mother was abused or they were abused as little children.
Sometimes we have subconscious thoughts that are very negative, thus – for that reason – we attract negative events, circumstances, and even people that may hurt us.
It’s good to remember and be aware that when thing happen for a reason, let’s try to find that reason!
I could go on and on, but I’m sure you’ll get my point.
But if you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask.
Thank you so much for coming and I’m glad you found me. I’ll come over to our blog to say hello very soon.
Sylviane
Hi Sylviane,
What a beautiful share. I feel so peaceful now after I read this and I don’t know why. Maybe it is because I know that we are all connected in some way. I do believe that there is an energy that binds all things. Maybe I needed to be reminded of that or it is your wonderful energy that hit my third eye and relaxed me immediately. Fascinating isn’t it?
Once we know deep in our heart that there are reasons things happen, like your example of everything flowing correctly. And also driving in the rain in peace – we then can pull energy from somewhere and be at ease.
You know me well and know I am a great believer in this. And one quote rings in my heart
Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect.
• We are a part of the earth and it is part of us
~ Chief Seattle
Thank you for the peace and love shared in this post,
-Donna
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Hi Donna,
Ah, you’re making me all giddy, because this coming from someone like you is very strong for me.
You see, it’s because we are all one that you were able with a simple picture of my Sophie to tell me where she was hurting, and that she wasn’t in pain, or even that it wasn’t her time to go that day. That my dear, I’ll never forget because you were right, right and right all the way!
Indeed, someone like you, has got to know that we are one.
I love that quote. Humankind is not the king of the world, it’s just part of it. and at an universal level smaller than a particle of dust. We are connected to everything, we can’t stand on our own. I certainly believe that.
I’m so glad you seemed to have enjoyed this read. Thanks so much for letting me know that.
Lovely topic and beautiful set of anecdotes Sylviane 🙂
This is my first time on your blog and I’m liking it already! I think one powerful lesson this way of perception teaches us is acceptance 🙂 That itself lets us get rid of a lot of small worries which build up over time 🙂
Thanks again for sharing the lovely content. Will keep visiting you 🙂
Cheers,
Nik
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Hi Nikshep, and welcome to my blog.
I am thrilled that you are liking what you seeing here. That’s the goal 🙂
Very true, acceptance is a keyword here, and if we don’t like what happen, we can learn how to tun up our emotions and energy so we can attract events and circumstances that we like better.
Thank you for coming and for your input.
Hi Sylviane,
Fascinating post… and I couldn’t agree with you more that sometimes, or even many times, it isn’t about us.
But, though we find ourselves in the middle of something or affecting by the consequences of another as you said the fact remains… things in life happen.
Why?
We may never know?
As a Christian I believe that God is sovereign and that nothing happens by accident. There are life experiences and there are learning experiences and many times we have no idea in the big picture the affect on others. That gives me confidence to just take care of what is important as best I can.
I suppose you can call it the universe, God, whatever someone wants to call it; nonetheless your point is very well taken.
I can only control what I know. And, as you so eloquently did in the situation between your two blogging friends; seek to make a positive contribution and difference.
The rest of it, well I suppose it’s not for me to worry about or dwell upon; especially if it’s negative.
Great post Sylviane. I love your message!!!!!
~ Don Purdum
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Hi Don,
I’m thrilled that you enjoy my article here.
You made a good point here, we can only control what we know. It’s very good to remember that.
At times we may find ourselves in the business of others, unwillingly, like me on Monday and Tuesday 🙂 because it was God’s will to use me I guess, in this instance. As a matter of fact, I’m honored since it seems that a big misunderstand was lifted. But I will never understand why me! Yet, again, I don’t have to.
One thing that I found, though is that the more we understand our thought process and the type of stuff we tend to attract our way, the least we’ll call those things circumstances, luck or lack thereof. A lot of situations can be explained when we get deeper into our mindset. We tend to forget that thoughts are like magnets 🙂
I should know, I’ve attracted both the most incredible and the worst things that way in my life. Just tuning things up has helped me to attract more good things than bad now.
Thank you so much for reading this. I appreciate you!
Hello Ms. Sylviane
Excellent post!
As a Christian and do believe God’s is sovereign, I firmly believe that things happen for a reason and with purpose.
When people can understand this principle no matter what circumstance or situation is at hand, we experience peace.
You are right…it is not always about me, but others.
Thank you for such an excellent post.
Be well!
Gladys
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Hi Gladys,
Very true, when we come to the understanding that things happen for a reason and often times a purpose we find peace.
Thank you for your input and I hope all is well for you and your son.
Now THIS is my kind of article! Loved it, Sylviane =)
Does everything happen for a reason? Short answer, yes–I believe so.
Long answer- too long for a comment section (even for me).
Sooooo, I’ll say this: That phrase, the ones that teens still use, “It’s all good,” is actually correct. I know they don’t mean it this way–but if you align yourself with the Universe, as you so aptly put it–you’ll notice that everything works out for your benefit IF YOU LET IT.
Think about that. Regardless of what happens, you can benefit…even if it’s learning from a BAD example.
Now, my personal belief is that the KEY is gratitude.
Be grateful for everything. Good, bad, doesn’t matter. Be grateful and you’ll discover a mighty shift in your perspectives…and hidden treasures uncovered.
I second Don, in that I believe that God is sovereign and that nothing happens by accident.
Fantastic article my friend. Well done.
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Hi Jaime,
You’ve definitely use a very important keyword here, gratitude.
That’s how I start my day, every day, before I even get up from my bed 🙂 I say “thank you for this day of life” and “for being alive,” and then I get up.
Yes, I also believe that God is sovereign and that nothing just happens by accident.
Thank you for coming by, Jaime and you have a wonderful day!
Ahhhh, now I know we’re siblings in some form. I do the EXACT same thing…then add a Huuuuuge intake of air, and when i let it out slowly, I try to “feel” that gratitude all around me…and then I smile as big as i can.
I’t like fuel for the day.
Wow. You just jumped up on my “I think you’re cool” scale =)
Wow, Jaime, yes, pretty much on the dot 🙂 That’s what I do! I knew I was cool LOL, and so are you 🙂 🙂
Hi Sylviane,
Good stories to show just how the LOA works. When we are in our right mindset, relaxed and let the Universe do it’s thing, things happen as they should be.
I like that you explained too that some times, the Universe uses others to help resolve an issue. Somehow we get connected to them and that’s a great thing when we are used. I always feel so good when that happens.
Great post and helps others to understand exactly how it works.
Good job.
Barbara
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Hi Barbara,
I know what you mean, it feels good when the Universe is using us to help others, or to resolve an issue of some sort.
That’s why I was kind of flattered on Monday when my post helped resolved a misunderstanding between two of my good blogging friends that are such good and talent people that I really like and respect. I think that what happened was for the best of both of them.
Nice to see you here today, Barbara, and have a great weekend.
Hey Sylviane,
What a great message and I too believe that everything happens for a reason. We may never know what that reason is or whatever happens in our lives might not be about us. But it has to take place in order for us or possibly someone else to move on or resolve things.
I like the example you used about your recent passport renewal. I believe that when we stay positive about a lot of things that they will work out the way they should.
On the same note I’ve had people ask me why do bad things happen to good people. I’m a good person but I’ve had bad things happen to me because I believe that at that time my thoughts probably weren’t in the right place. What ended up happening was just a byproduct of that so I did bring that into my existence. Maybe the lesson here is to think better thoughts! Who knows really but it’s definitely something to pay close attention to.
I’m glad that the issue on your blog recently was resolved and you’re right! Maybe it happened to help bring peace between the two parties. Hey, only good things came from it so you were the vehicle used to resolve them.
Another great lesson here Sylviane, thanks for sharing it with us.
~Adrienne
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Hi Adrienne,
I came to my blog dashboard this morning and wow, I saw that you made up for three weeks worth 🙂
The reason why bad things can happen to good people is simply due to the law of attraction. Believe me, I’m a good person too, and before I understood or even knew about the law of attraction I was always wondering why bad stuff happened to me and my mother as well.
I’m not asking that question anymore, Adrienne, because I know that the law of attraction is a forth in action that works with our thought pattern (and emotions), not whether we are good or bad.
Our thoughts are like magnets and they attract according to their kind, so to speak.
If you and I have attracted bad stuff it was because our thoughts and emotions weren’t in a good place. That’s all.
I will discuss this very deeply in my book, for sure, because many people need this info I feel, even though Esther Hicks and Melody Fletcher explain those things very well.
I sure love it when the Universe uses me to help others, even if I have nothing to do with it.
Thank you for coming by, Adrienne.