SYLVIANE NUCCIO

40 thoughts on “How To Create Your Perfect Life – Part One”

1. Hi Sylviane,

   Ah…who wouldn’t dream of leading a perfect life…I think everyone eventually wants just that 🙂

   But you are right – how many of us really are able to lead such a life, or how many of us really wish and will to have such a perfect life. I think only when we aim for such a life will we have a goal to achieve it, though as you mentioned, you need to have the will power to move ahead with it, or else it doesn’t work.

   I think we can achieve what we want if we are able to reprogram our subconscious mind. I liked your talk about your friend’s wrong choices 🙂

   Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead 🙂
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   1. Hi Harleena,

      Actually so very few people are living the life of their dream, it’s kind of sad. “My” goal present and future is to help people realize that they can achieve what they want by changing their programming.

      Thanks for coming. I know you’re very busy and appreciate it.
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2. Hi Sylviane,

   The first part of the post sounds like me. I wake, not with an alarm clock, but when my body wants to. Sometimes early, but most times later. I like to be in harmony with my body.

   When I think back many many years ago when I had my job, It always occurred to me that I had to wake and rush into my day, and my body wanted to slowly ease into it. Then there was that “rat race” of trains in the city, and getting to work on time. Eating when they told me to eat…I wasn’t hungry yet. All this went against my natural flow of my body.

   That’s what started me early in my 20’s to be an Entrepreneur. My body told me so!

   Yes, I was “trained” all my life to go to school, be a good girl, get a job, climb up the ladder. Phewey!

   The subconscious mind played such a role in this transformation years ago with me. Everyone around me – family and friends – reinforced my subconscious that I was crazy to go out on my own and start my own business. I must admit it was a long hard struggle, especially at that early age.

   But somehow, without being aware of the subconscious issues, I listened to my heart. Yes I was called a rebel and people started to stray from my life. But the good thing was the more people I’ve lost, the more I’ve gained in this journey.

   Now, when I want to make any changes in my life, I’ve learned that I need to go to a coach to do so. It takes too much time and trial and error to make those changes. With the help of a coach it saves me so much time.

   Looking forward to your nest post!

   -Donna
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   1. Hi Donna,

      When I was writing this post I was thinking of the few people I know who are living this type of life, and you’re one of them.

      In my case, I was living it all throughout my twenties and things changed in a bad way. I had to go to the source to understand why my life went that way. So now I am on the climb again to grab my well deserved freedom.

      Thank you for sharing your story, Donna.
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3. Sylviane, interesting about your friend, why do you think did he made the wrong choices? I always wonder about that. It appears that some appear unlucky with life and others breeze right through living their dreams. I think many have a dream but not a plan on how to achieve it. It’s something they just ponder when they want to “run away” from their daily lives. Looking forward to your follow-up on this one!
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   1. Hi Lisa,

      Frankly, there no such things as luck. Luck is the word people use when they can’t explain it.

      My friends has had a lot of bad programming which is getting rid of little by little. To me he’s the perfect example of what a self sabotage subconscious programming can do. And it has nothing to do with luck. As a matter of fact, he had bunches of great opportunities all the time throughout life, but he managed to mess them all up 🙂

      Thanks for coming and reading this post.
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4. Hey Sylviane,

   When I was much younger I did have a dream of what I wanted my life to be. My life was going along perfectly until one day it was all yanked away and totally out of my control. I don’t think that had anything to do with any underlying subconscious thoughts of mine because that life was what was programmed into my mine at that time. We’ve talked briefly about this particular situation in our mastermind session before.

   It happened a second time so I stopped dreaming. I just lived my life the way I thought it was suppose to be until of course one day I saw The Secret and realized that I could do and be more then what I was. That really is when all the change started happening for me.

   If people were to see my life, visit my home, see the car I drive or my wardrobe I think in their minds they would probably think I don’t have much. The funny thing with me is that I don’t want much, I never have. That’s not what makes me happy. My family, friends, my dog and my relationships are what matters to me the most and nothing else.

   I do live the perfect life but it’s only because I believed this was where I was suppose to be after years of never thinking this was even possible. You darn right it does work. 🙂

   ~Adrienne
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   1. HI Adirenne,

      I so understand what you’re saying.

      That was my life in my twenties. I was doing what I love the most and didn’t have to worry about much. But it all changed at one point.

      However, in my case I do know that it was my subconscious programming just catching on with me, because I know that there was lot of mess there.

      There’s also the fact that at times things happen for a reason. If I had not gone through the things I went through I would not ever be able to help others. That would just not be possible. So whatever I went through happened for a reason. I’m sure of that.

      I’m sure that what happened to you was for a reason too, Adrienne 🙂

      Thanks you for sharing your experience here.

5. Hi Sylviane,

   A while back I had asked myself if there was anything I could ever do/ achieve or experience, however, the answer always eluded me. I really had no clue what I wanted because I only saw what was ever right in front of me.
   I was like your client/ friend. And then one day I thought “wow, it seems that no matter what happens good or bad, I always complain. Interesting.”
   So yes, it’s true that it doesn’t matter what the external reveals if the internal experiences the same reality regardless.

   Back then, I didn’t know that all possibilities existed, and I didn’t understand that we only see and experience that which we repeatedly focus on.
   And what we repeatedly focus on is whatever we were programmed to focus on – as the cycle repeats until we wake up.
   And that waking up process has many many layers…as this programming runs very deep.
   I really think the shift begins in the act of ‘unknowing’ if this makes any sense. It did for me anyway.

   Awesome post. Love it!
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   1. Hi Dana,

      You’re a person of great insight. But I’m sure you know that already. You are so getting it.

      You see the Universe could be compared to a painters’ palette with all the colors that exist. But let’s say that we are color blind and we can’t see any color that has blue and green in them. We can only see yellows, reds, browns and blacks. So our focus will automatically concentrate on the colors that we can see, and ignore the ones we can’t.

      As we start painting our picture, we are going to use the colors we can see and identify, but at the end of the day, our painting won’t have any blue or green colors in it. It’s not that blue and green weren’t on the palette, we know they were, but we didn’t used them because we couldn’t SEE them.

      This is exactly how everything work and how we are able to attract (or NOT) something. Our painting (our life) is full of what we can see and focus on, and it doesn’t have what we don’t see and, therefore don’t focus on.

      I hope it makes sense 🙂

      Thanks so much for your excellent feedback.
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6. Thanks Sylviane for the motivational and inspiring post.

   I seldom use to think if ever one can get a perfect life. Of a truth, humans plan, prays e.t.c, however, some circumstances beyond their own control may affect the laid down plans.

   As an African ( Nigerian) where some basic infrastructure and amenities are not readily available to help your dream into reality, it has now become mandatory to resort to prayer and serious toiling to see your vision come to fruition.

   Thanks for sharing this tips, its an important post, and will definitely bookmark it.
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   1. Hi Dare and thank you so much for coming by.

      Since you are from Nigeria, I couldn’t help thinking about Oni. Do you know him? He’s a wonderful and successful freelance writer from Nigeria.

      So, even in places of the world where life might not always be easy, granted, it’s still possible to live your dreams. I’m sure of that.

      Hope you come back for part two of this series.

      Thank you for your input.
      Sylviane Nuccio invites you to read..How To Create Your Perfect Life – Part One

7. Hello Sylviane!

   When I was younger I didn’t have any dreams other than having a job and making money. I had the typical teenage dream…to live in New York and have a job in fashion or the music industry.

   Perhaps I could have had I had the right mindset and worked at it but I didn’t. I thought, “it wasn’t meant to be”. Another reason? I grew up believing those very reasons you shared in your post. I think it’s was just handed down through the generations though.

   My parents always told us we had to work hard, that even if we didn’t like our job, it was work and you keep it because jobs are hard to come by and my favorite, you can’t always get what you want. I don’t blame them because.their parents taught them that first.

   I took me a long time to get out of that mindset but just in time to encourage my kids to go after their dreams. My son’s perfect life would be to become a musician and he has my total support. I don’t want him living to L.A. eating once a day and living out of his car. If he decides to move there he’ll be equipped with what he’ll need to make that dream come true.

   I also believe there’s a plan for us and it may not be what we have for ourselves. We just have to listen to that still, small voice that guides us.

   Great post Sylviane. Very thought-provoking post! Have a great day!
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   1. Hi Corina,

      I so understand what you mean. Yes, the truth is that we can’t even blame our parents for being who they are or were, because their parents were even worse. When I say worse, of course I mean in the sense that they didn’t know anything about the laws of the universe and lived their life based on what they knew. Yet, they were better than their parents.

      I firmly believe that generations progress as time goes on. Just the same as our grandparents didn’t invented the cell phone or the flat screen TV, they were not ready for personal development matters either. It’s a mankind progression and we are so fortunate to be part of a generation that is part of this knowledge. I have no children (no human ones anyway), but if I did, I would do just like you do with your kids.

      Thank you so much for your input.
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      1. I totally agree with you that parents evolve and go better than the generations before. I know what you mean by worse…my grandmother was very strict with my mom and my mom, although a little more modern, still raised us with her beliefs.

         For example, talking to us about s.e.x. To my mom, that was taboo and we dared not bring it up. Me, I want to educate my daughters so they don’t repeat the mistakes I made or what I thought was the true meaning of s.e.x. :). So yes, we do progress like technology and medicine so is parenting a lot different.

         I have four four-legged babies myself 🙂

         Thanks for sharing this with us. I can’t wait for part 2! Hope you had a great Sunday! Have a great new week Sylviane!
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         1. I Corina,

            I love, love your example, because it really brings out what I was saying. And what you’re saying is SO similar to my story with my grandmother and mother. For my grandmother SEX didn’t even existed it seems 🙂 for my mother it was still pretty much something only boys have the right to do and enjoy. I know that for the most part it was totally subconscious for my mother, but that’s what she passed onto me. Oh boy, did that messed with my head… to this day, girl 🙂

            Of course, if I had had children, I would talk about sex with my kids freely, but most of all I would not talk about sex as it’s a male thing, which is the mistake my mother made. I don’t blame her though, because considering where she came from she did a great job with her kids, and some things can only be totally healed by the process of generations it seems.

            We are growing mentally and spiritually as time goes one. So thankful for this.

            Sorry for this late reply, Corina
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8. Hi Sylviane,

   Excellent post, indeed!

   Indeed, you are so right about how if the sub-conscious mind has not shifted, then positive change will be difficult.

   I love to access the sub-conscious mind through meditation, as it enables me to understand what is going on inside me at the root level in an objective way, and notice exactly how emotional problems are arising.

   Thank you.
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   1. Hi Hiten,

      Yes, it’s a very important thing to do – making sure we know what’s going on in that subconscious mind of ours, since basically everthing comes from there.

      Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. By the way, do you have a post where you talk about this mediation type?

      Thanks for coming. Really appreciated it.
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9. Hi Sylviane,
   Unlike most, I always had a dream of being stinking rich having my own private jets, security guards and several palace like houses around the world 🙂

   My mother always thought I was always speaking nonsense and whatever I said didn’t make sense and she was right from her perspective of being practical. But I was a kid, right? I cared less. My games would also be around me being a king and my other friends serving in my army and things like that 🙂 It was a lot of fun!

   But later on, I realized I was using the power of spoken words. I was programming my subconscious for success unknowingly. I haven’t become that rich yet and I am neither that famous but from where I come to where I am going, those childhood days, I believe, have made a tremendous impact.

   Goals don’t work, unless we do. And you are right, the subconscious mind has a tremendous power and we need to harness it. We can start that programing by just speaking right to begin with and then take it from there, right?

   Thank you for this remarkable post! Have a wonderful, successful week!

   Regards,
   Kumar
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   1. That’s fantastic Kumar. I like that!

      We live in a society where anyone wanting more is seen as a materialist or selfish person, but that’s just BS. I’ve always had big dreams and I’m not materialist or selfish in the bad sense of those terms. But I did learn that in order to “have” you have to BE, FEEL and ASK for what you want, or you won’t.

      I am basing this series on some new things that I’m learning myself, so it should be a great one. I don’t even know yet how many posts there will be, but they won’t be one after the other. I’ll spread them apart like little pinches of seasoning in that big dish which is my whole blog 🙂

      Thanks for telling us your wonderful experience.
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10. Ahhhh Sylviane. What a beautiful picture you paint. Of course, everyone wants to have that life and follow their dreams. You paint an amazing picture of what it could be like.

    I know I have grown over the years. Didn’t really have any dreams until after college. Just wasn’t aware that it could be better than what I was living. It’s important for people to be aware that they can live that life.

    This is a great post Sylviane. Look forward to your series.

    Barbara

    1. Hi Barbara,

       I’m glad you like that picture. I know, who wouldn’t, right? I think most people don’t even think that they are better possibilities and options out there. Even me who always was a big dreamer, I still didn’t think I could actually HAVE what I wanted. We are fed some much BS 🙂 how could we?

       I’ve decided to turn up the volume on my own present situation and I’m in a middle of a learning process that I will be sharing. That’s what my series will be about. I hope it can help some interested people.

       Since I’m paying for what I’m learning right now, I’ll still keep the top notch nuggets for my coaching program, but I guess you’ll still be able to get a lot from my posts.

       Thanks for coming, Barbara 🙂
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11. Hi Sylviane – thanks for a very interesting post. You’re so right about the power of our sub-conscious minds – the trick, I guess, is knowing how to harness that power for good, rather than for ill.

    Like Hiten, I find meditation is a very powerful way to get in touch with my sub-conscious and increase my self-awareness.

    As far as “dreams” go, I think the challenge is to “find” the dream that’s really going to lead to your fulfilment – we often think we know what’s going to make us happy, but then it turns out not to be so. We can grasp after things that end up making us miserable – I’ve spent decades doing just that!

    It’s taken me years to realise that one of my dreams is to be a writer – that dream was suppressed for years beneath layers and layers of fears and ill-conceived ideas about myself, my identity and my creative abilities. Finding the right dream – I think that’s the hardest part.
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    1. Hi Sue,

       Well, you’re actually asked the question and gave the answer here that I was going to discuss as a reply to your input.

       What makes people not knowing what they want or what’s going to make them happy it’s because they have not cleared their mind and soul enough. It’s still full of baggage and it prevents their dreams to show. It’s like you have a beautiful piece of collection up your attic, but it’s full of filth and dirt so you can’t really see what the item really looks like until you clean it out.

       A lot of our desires and dreams are just like this piece of collection. We need to clean the clutter first and then we can see our dreams come out. I guess that’s what you did.

       That’s when meditation, hypnosis and other personal development tools can help us.

       Thank you for your excellent input, and I appreciate your visit. Sorry for this late repy 🙂
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12. I absolutely believe we were meant to live the life of our dreams. And I feel incredibly blessed to overall say that I am. I have been married for 23 years to my fabulous husband, we have two beautiful daughters and I love what I do professionally. I’ve worked as a financial advisor for 21 years but two years ago I brought to life another passion of mine – financial literacy for kids. It’s a busy, busy life but it’s rewarding and I wouldn’t want a different life. How you describe waking up is me most mornings. And when I start to feel that disconnect and lack of enthusiasm then I know I either need to take a break or see what’s not working.
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    1. Hi Shannon and welcome here.

       Sorry for this late reply, but I’ve been a bit caught up with things.

       You certainly look like you’re living the life of your dream and it so nice of you to have given your own example to show the readers of this post who are not yet living it, that it’s possible.

       Thanks for your input.
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13. I definitely believe we can live the life we dream but I know that I personally block my dreams sometimes. I doubt whether it can really happen or if I’m worthy or if it will truly make me happy. I am my own worst self-saboteur. I do agree that our sub-conscious is so powerful and even though we say all the right words, if our sub-conscious isn’t in alignment than it’s hard to make our words a reality. I found you through Corina’s I’m Every Woman Weekly and I’m so glad I did. Looking forward to exploring your site further!
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    1. Hi Tanya,

       I’m so glad you met me through Corina. How nice of her to have featured me on her woman weekly issue.

       It looks like you need to put that subconscious of yours in alignment with your consciousness. There are tools such meditation, self hypnosis, being coached, tapping and more that can help you in this regard. Also if you want to browse this blog I have written many tips over the years on that subject matter.

       If you have any questions, please let me know.

       Thanks for coming.
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14. This post is RIGHT on. We really need to reprogram ourselves to see things in life differently. We do not have to settle. We can have our dreams come true and we have to be focused on our thoughts! Like they say thoughts are things!

    Thanks Sylviane!

    1. Hi Arelis,

       Yes, totally, things ARE things and that’s why so many people get stuck. They want one thing, but their deep down thoughts are totally different from what they want.

       That’s why it’s so important to make sure that our subconscious mind is in alignment with our conscious mind, so we can finally attract what we truly want.

       Sorry for this late reply and thank you for coming.
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15. Hi Sylviane,

    Thank you for a tremendous post. I think that many people are held back from achieving their dreams and a life of happiness exactly because of subconscious
    statements they have come to accept about them as true, which, in fact, are not.

    People also have a lot more personal power than they give themselves credit for.

    I think the important thing to realize… for people who feel they’ve been held back, or can never seem to get beyond their circumstances… is that it is never too late to dream, to do, and to become.

    I dreamed as a boy, in fact, I vowed that when I got older, got married and had children, they would never be treated the way I was; the cycle of violence would end. I made that dream come true and kept that promise to myself. I count this amongst my top successes.

    Having suffered a great deal has had a lot to do with who I am today. I do not want to see anyone suffer.

    Have a great week ahead!
    Bill
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    1. Hi Bill,

       You bet, what an achievement, when we know how many parents have fallen in the vicious circle of reproducing what they themselves have experienced as children from their parents.

       In a comment I left on one of your latest post I was telling you how my mother had a pretty miserable childhood even though she wasn’t mistreated, but she lacked a lot of things.

       So, as a mother of two, she made sure my brother and I NEVER missed anything, and she made sure that she’d do just about complete opposite of what her parents did. And she surely succeeded! I feel so blessed for having had such a smart mother, and I see how smart you were in raising your children the way you did.

       Thanks for bring this up. We have a choice and we can change things. Those who blame others for their failures are just either very weak or liars, but we have no excuse to be either one.
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16. Well, I think I’ve always been a dreamer. 🙂 And for the most part what I’ve dreamed for myself has come to fruition. But although I’m a dreamer, I work hard at everything I do to make my dreams come true. My Mom always taught me that anything worth having was worth working hard for. 🙂 I love this post!
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    1. Hi Donna and welcome here. I totally get that, I’ve always been a dreamer too, and that’s great to be one. Yes everything worth having is worth the effort indeed.

       Thank you for coming and for your input.
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17. Hi Sylviane

    I love this post. I think kids dream but often those dreams stop way to young. I always dreamed of big things when I was younger. Then in my first businesses I had huge dreams and goals. Many were achieved and then we had a couple of set backs along the way. The last one was the worst and I started to downsize my dreams. I still can pick myself up doing that.

    I still set an alarm most days because I want to go to certain yoga an gym classes. that is okay though it is my choice.

    I think many people do not think they can have better lives. I see it all the time.

    Excellent post.

    Sue
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    1. Hi Sue,

       Yes, that’s true, so many people don’t think they can have a better life. That is just such a COMMON way of thinking all over the world. We are just so fortunate to belong to that like 1% that knows they can.

       Sure, setting your alarm clock to go to a yoga class is not the same thing as setting the alarm clock to go to a job you hate. Big difference.

       Thank you for coming, Sue 🙂
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18. I’ve always had so much difficulty believing people when they say they have no dreams. I mean, this is all I think about. I live and die for my dreams.

    One of my favorite questions to ask people is what’s something they’re really passionate about. What is something they would do if they knew they couldn’t fail. Stuff like that.

    A lof of people don’t have an answer. Of those who do, few have one that seems genuine, well thought and meaningful.
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19. Hi Sylviane,

    I believe that having a perfect life depends on a matter of thinking you have. I you are always thankful for every gift or blessing you receive, then your life will be close to perfection.
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    1. Yes, Alexis, that’s exactly right.

       The more we’re tankful, but more good things will become.
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20. Absolutely right, I’m totally agree with you Some People don’t have a Dream. They living their life without Dream! Well it’s nice lesson to learn about live a Perfect Life 🙂

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