Since I’ve been free to move about in Europe, from Scotland, Ireland, England to Spain, do you know what’s been the most joyful part of it all?
Now, you would think that what’s been the most wonderful part of all is the traveling part, right?
Having the fabulous privilege to visit all those majestic places and live at my own pace.
And it certainly is.
But do you know what the best of the best part of it all is?
Want to take a guess?
Well, let me not torture you any longer.
The best part of all this wonderful new life that is mine, it’s that I’ve removed the unwanted from my life.
Because, let me tell you a little secret here…
It is more powerful to remove what you don’t want, than to even add some cool stuff into your lifestyle.
That’s why as a coach, it’s more powerful for me to help people remove their unwanted baggage than to promise them the moon.
If you are a little confused, bear with me for a few minutes, and make sure you read the rest of this article. You’ll never bee confused again about that.
Always Choose the Path of Least Resistance
When I consult with a new client, the first thing I’m looking for is to find out what I call their pain point.
What is the part of their life that hurts them most?
Why do I do that?
Because I know that it’s more important to remove people’s pain point than to promise them the moon.
The reason why this is so it’s because no matter what you may add to your life, as long as something is bringing you down, you’ll never truly be happy and whole.
The best example I can think of is some of the rich and famous people out there. They may have fame, money and all the relationships they want, but yet again, they often use drug because they are overall unhappy in life.
If they are still not content while having everything that you might think could make YOU happy, it’s because they still have a pain point.
They may still have something that is bringing them down somehow. So no matter what they add on to their life, no matter how wealthy, popular and surrounded by a full entourage they may become, that doesn’t necessarily remove their pain point.
That’s why as a coach, I’m trained to spot your pain point – or paint points – rather than just telling you to go do something that will just be adding superficial joy.
How Removing my Own Pain Point was Liberating
In my very own case, my huge pain point was my job.
As I’m walking around beautiful countries, traveling by plane or by train, hiking on a beautiful loch mountains in Scotland, walking in a charming pub street in Ireland, crossing a field of sheep and cows in England, or laying on hot beach in Spain; do you know what makes me smile most while I’m doing all that?
What makes me happiest inside. What makes me giggle at times or even shout out loud in pure bliss, it’s not what you might think.
Now, is that not wonderful what I’m living right now?
Of course it is. It’s above and beyond wonderful, actually.
But what I’ve noticed deep down inside, is that the best part of it all, is that I’ve removed my pain point.
I quit my job which I had started to really hate.
It wasn’t even one of those tough or stressful jobs, but you don’t have to be in a tough or stressful job to hate it. Now, do you?
Now, I know that “hate” is a very strong word, and I always help my clients to see the strength of that word and try to remove it from their vocabulary as much as possible.
But when you realize that whatever that pain point of yours is making you using the word “hate” that’s when you know that you have to remove such pain point as soon as possible.
Every single day, as the thought of me having left that job crosses my mind from the very moment I open my eyes in the morning, I feel full of joy, because that thorn has been removed from my flesh.
So…
What is Your Pain Point?
Or do you have one?
The truth is most people have one such thorn, and at times more than one.
I had more than one myself too, but the other ones are of a very different kind and the subject of a whole different topic.
But what about you?
Why don’t you take a few minutes, right after you finish reading this article and listened to the video, to try to find out what that pain point of yours is?
Maybe it’s obvious, maybe it’s not, but only you can truly know.
Either way it’s so very important for you to remove it, because what I’m talking about here creates something that you don’t want in your life at all.
Why a Pain Point Creates Resistance?
You create resistance in your world, in your universe, in your everyday life, every time you feel a block. Every time you have negative thoughts about something, you create resistance, and resistance is the antidote to allowing.
Actually, if you are wanting something in our life right now, and hopefully doing some of the things that I’m teaching through this blog week after week.
If you are trying to attract a better life, but yet that thing you want is not showing up, it’s probably because of the resistance you are creating.
Resistance can be tricky to spot.
Even me with the sizable conscious knowledge that I have about the law of attraction and all that good stuff, I had not fully realized how much that stupid job of mine was creating a resistance in my life that prevented me to move forward faster.
What about you?
Can you look around your life and find that point of resistance?
Just so you know, I can also help you with finding it, by the way, but in the meantime, let me give you some insights as far as how you can use that magical mind of yours to remove the unwanted in your life.
To remove that pain point that’s pretty much spoiling everything else.
Using your Mind to Help you Remove the Unwanted
First off, let me remind you that I’ve just published a new book now available on Smashwords that will take you by the hand with a step by step tutorial, showing you exactly that.
But for the time being, let me give you some quick tips to help you spot the unwanted in your life.
Your mind is a marvelous thing, and you can use it in this particular case for two things…
1- Finding out what you really don’t want in your life right now.
2- To move you closer to be able to remove it.
When I was at that job that I hated, what helped me not to totally lose my mind or become depressed, was that I knew that I was working my way out in my mind.
All I had to do is be patient – very patient I might add – but I knew that I was working on leaving from the inside out.
How do you work anything from the inside out?
By being where you want to be in your mind first.
An inside job, as I call it, is totally different than taking physical actions. It’s something that no one around you will even be aware of, but it’s very powerful.
So what is it?
It’s a combination of meditation, visualization, and energy work.
It can include, tapping, positive affirmations, reading and listening to personal development materials, as well as getting in a routine where you take some type of actions to work on both your conscious and subconscious mind.
I’ve written dozens upon dozens of posts on this blog about each specific topic, and I would encourage you to go back to each one of them highlighted here, and learn more about these topics.
The more you learn about them, the more you can start the process of removing the unwanted things from your life.
You could start by checking my book which will give you the steps that you need to do that. You can get it today at the price of a cup of coffee.
Whatever you decide, please, leave your comments and inputs below. I’ll be sure to answer any questions you may have.
Hi Sylviane,
Neat! So trained to click on your shared pictures, that I clicked and
ended up here.
Enjoying your new joyful life and the gifts you are giving.
Proof that your philosophy of removing the “pain points” in order to open the
path to growth is working.
Congratulations and I wish you much success in the future.
C.
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Hello Cararta (So what do you like better? Cararta or Artargene? Never know how to call you :))
Yes, removing the paint points really works, because it frees your energy and spirit.
I know that you are such a great follower of my facebook updates, and I do notice and fully appreciate that. I do know who comments and who doesn’t, and facebook is a great tool to get to know who really cares or not, by the way. Like the ones who just like stuff, but never comment 🙂
Thanks for watching the video too.
Have a great day ahead!
Hey Sylviane,
Ages back when I was in school, I made some resolutions to myself. One of them was that I wouldn’t take up a job. That is a serious 9 to 5 salary based job. Something that I always considered a road block to achieving anything big in life.
When you work for someone else, you don’t build anything lasting and constructive for yourself. That is the biggest thing that I hate about jobs.
Good to know that you have finally quit your job, that will allow you to use your time more freely and positively.
Personally, I had a few Pain-Points myself that I have managed to get rid of in time and there are several others for which am still working on.
thanks,
Uttoran Sen,
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Hi Uttoran,
Yes, there are still lots of people who think that having a good job is the way to go, and that’s fine as long as you love your job, but if you don’t, then that’s not living, that’s surviving and who wants that, right?
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.
Have a wonderful day.
Hi Sylviane,
I so appreciate that you’re perspective is to help your clients and not promise them the moon!!!!
So many are doing that and ending up failing and earning bad reputations because they don’t understand their own limits in someone else’s life.
When I’m coaching someone on how to build their message or business I share with them that it’s not my job to transform their message or business. However, it is my job to take them on a journey of discovery and to lead them through a process of finding their message or business.
Many times, it’s all there. They just need the guidance and be pointed in the right direction. That’s why I say there is no right or wrong; only discovery through process.
Great article Sylviane!!!!
I hope you have a great week and keep those amazing pictures coming. I’m loving seeing where my forefathers are from through your camera lens.
~ Don Purdum
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Hi Don,
I like what you’re saying to your clients, it’s a bit like I tell mine. I tell them, I can’t do the inside job for you, but I can show what and how to do it.
Lately I had someone who wanted that. He wanted the moon. He wanted lots of traffic now, and I guess he didn’t like my answer since I’ve never heard from him since. Those type people are the perfect pray for the get rich fast schemes. I guess they’ll learn the hard way.
Thanks for coming by, Don.
Hi Sylviane,
Because I’ve known you for a long while, I do remember your “pain point” in that miserable job you had. I see the great difference with you now since you left.
You have successfully removed yourself from that “pain” and go on to a new journey in your life. Since you have been on this journey you look amazing…you are actually glowing and I see the lift in your spirit.
Now you have more time to work at your own business at your own pace and I see the leaps and bounds you have done already.
It is difficult to move forward with a “ball and chain” around our ankles. It could be a job we hate, a difficult relationship…anything at all that makes us feel like we cannot step forward.
Fantastic message you have given us and thank you so much for sharing!
-Donna
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Hi Donna,
I’m glad you’ve got to see that post. I haven’t even promoted it much even though it’s from last week.
I’m happy to know that my change in spirit is seen and felt. I definitely feel it myself. Gosh I hated that job, not for the job itself, but for being somewhere I didn’t want to be and with people I didn’t want to associate with for the most part. I actually give thanks for that each day, right after I wake up in the morning.
Thank you for sharing and for coming.
Have a wonderful day!
Hi Sylviane,
I agree that inside jobs can be so powerful and has a big part in transforming one’s life.
I have pain points myself and I still am working on them. Not easy and I know it won’t take overnight. The struggle is real but I know it’s possible. Thanks for shedding light on this and giving us tips to help us make it.
Have a beautiful day!
Luna
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Hi Luna,
I am very happy if this post has given you any encouragement.
To remove your pain points, just remember to work on your feelings all throughout the day. You could do check points every hour or so and do a self check up.
Thanks for coming
Sylviane
Hi Sylviane,
You said it best when you used the example of famous people. I hear people say all the time that if only they had more money or if only they were famous they’d be happy. Most of the time that will never bring them happiness because there is always some underlying thing that keeps them from being happy in the first place. Things aren’t going to bring that into their lives until they deal with the reason they are unhappy in the first place.
I’m glad you are finally where you want to be now and I know it’s been a long time coming.
I bought your book and I do recommend others purchasing it as well. Great steps that you’ve shared that I believe can help anyone still struggling to figure this all out although we both know that most of the time what they really need is a coach. We don’t see what we don’t see right!
Love this post and although I’ve already shared it I’ll be sure to do that again.
You have a wonderful week although I already know you will.
~Adrienne
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Hi Adrienne,
For certain fame can never bring happiness on its own. At times it actually brings unhappiness.
Even money is not always a bringer of happiness. I know of many rich people as unhappy as the thousands of dollars they have. So, for sure, happiness comes from the inside.
Having been left for dead by my own family, I know what I’m talking about, right? 🙂 You can’t be happy or unhappy based on things outside of you, basically.
Another reason why people are unhappy is LACK of appreciation. You see, I so appreciate what I have right now. I wake up in the morning and I know that I can pretty much do whatever I want, when I want. I REALLY appreciate it.
Even the fact that I’ve lost both my kitties, and I’m surrounded with cats without the whole burden that comes with having them. That’s is a true blessing.
So, being able to be thankful is a MUST to find true happiness. When you find this first then you can work on your wealth and fame, but those who got those to things first, they are more often than not, not truly happy.
Thanks for coming by and for commenting, Adrienne.
PS: If you have the time, please, leave a review about my book on Smashwords.
Have a wonderful day! Hope you had a great B-day!
Heyya.. . Most of the time that will never bring them happiness because there is always some underlying thing that keeps them from being happy in the first place,When you work for someone else, you don’t build anything lasting and constructive for yourself. That is the biggest thing that I hate about jobs.Good to know that you have finally quit your job, that will allow you to use your time more freely and positively.Thanks for shedding light on this and giving us tips to help us make it.Have a Great day… 🙂
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Hi Sneba,
You said it right, as long as something is underlying everything, it doesn’t matter what you add on, there’s always going to be something that will prevent you from being truly happy. You need to work this out from the inside out.
Thanks for your feedback and for coming.