From the get go I want the reader to be sure that I have nothing against psychics, because the “psychic” part of us is a natural spiritual gift that we should all try to develop, and people who have well-developed psychic skills can be a real asset to their clients in many ways.
However, I felt compelled to write this article today, because of something I’ve noticed.
I belong to a few coaching platforms where I see a lot of potential clients looking for affordable help, but what struck me is that so many of them are looking for psychics.
In other words they are sending the message that they believe that life just happens to them and that they have no say in it. They’re not seeking psychics for guidance, but for revelations, and that’s where the problem is.
Are Psychics Able to Dictate your Life?
Now looking for psychic help is not what’s bad. My good Friend Donna Merrill whom I interviewed two years ago, and whom guest posted on this blog this past year is a psychic. But she’ll tell you one thing herself, she doesn’t feel that her job is to tell people what is going to happen to them. Her job as a psychic is to help people help themselves.
I’ll tell you one thing, most honest psychics will tell you that they are much better at seeing what was then what will be. Honest psychics won’t take your money for this type of readings anyway.
So, as a coach, the problem that I see when I noticed a list of potential clients looking for psychics is that they are looking for is a quick fix, a quick answer about how good things are going to be for them. In other words, they are looking for lies that can make them feel good. And they are ready to pay for those lies too. What they don’t seem to know is that they can CREATE their own future.
They don’t need a psychic to tell them what will be, because what will be will largely depends on what they decide to do – what actions they are going to take – and what type of efforts they are going to put into finding answers to their questions.
Over 20 years ago, I paid a tremendous amount of money to see a very popular psychic in Paris. She happened to consult with a lot of famous people, but absolutely nothing she told me would happen has ever came true. Nothing. Nada. Not a single thing she told me happened to be so. I did much better once, with my two own psychic dreams on my own which were right on target.
So, my point is don’t waste your time and money hoping that someone can tell you what your life is going to be. You can do much, much better than that.
In this post I wanted to help you understand how YOU can take responsibility for your own future and well-being, and rely less on someone else which you’ve never met before to tell you what your life is going to be like.
Quit the “help me” mentality and take on the responsible personality.
Why do you Feel the Need to Ask About your Future?
Believe me I’ve been there, and I can answer this question not only from my coaching point of view, but my own experience.
The reason why I felt the need to have someone tell me about my so called future was because I was lost. I wanted more out of life, but I didn’t know how to reach out for it. Because I had no specific goal in life, I wanted to fill the gap by having someone who could just tell me how it would all turn out. And last, but not least, it was also a way to refuse responsibility.
After all, if someone is able to tell me what’s going to happen, there’s nothing I can do to change it, is it? Therefore I have no responsibility attached to my lack of success.
Does any of these ring true at all? I bet that if you’re honest with yourself and have ever felt the need to consult with a psychic to find out about a future outcome, it was because at least one of these reasons, if not more or even all of them.
So, let’s take each of those points and see how you could change that “help me” mentality, and maybe look for someone to coach you rather then tell you want you want to hear.
Do you Want More out of Life?
Are you searching for a psychic reading because you want more out of life? Most probably so, but what about if the reading was bad news, what would you do, then? Would you just carry your torture stake around as a fatality, or would you want to try to make things better and try to turn things around?
If you want more out of life, you need to start taking the right actions to make it so. Just by sitting in your pity party won’t make your life any better any time soon.
Ever!
Believe me I’m been there and I know what I’m talking about to a T.
If you have landed on this post, it’s a good start. It means that you’re looking for answers the right way. I mean by this that you’re looking into what you could do to start improving your life by digging into personal development. If you’re trying to understand how your subconscious mind is directly linked to what you are attracting in life, it’s a good start.
When you want more out of life answers might not come to you right away, especially if you have no guidance to start with. That’s why people hire someone to guide and coach them, so they can have a professional guidance and start on the right foot.
If you are looking for guidance and willing to invest in yourself, simply contact me here, and tell me in a few paragraphs what you are looking for. I will honestly let you know if I can help you or if one of my coaching colleges might be a better fit for you. How does that sound?
Do you Have any Specific Goal in Life?
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, if you don’t plan, plan to fail. I don’t know of many successful people that have gotten where they are without planning for it.
Would any builder start building without a blue print? No way! The smallest of buildings requires specific planning and a specific blue print. Only once that’s done can the work begin and the building take shape until it’s complete.
It’s interesting how people plan trips, parties and other vacations, but they don’t plan their life at all. They are totally oblivious to the concept of having goals and working on them. They feel that life happens to them more than they believe that they have a say about it. That’s why they’re seeking psychic help to tell them what’s going to happen.
Do you need direction to find your goals? If you do, but have no idea where to start, why don’t you ask me if I can help you with that?
Do you Feel that Someone Needs to Fill the Gaps for you?
Maybe you have been subconsciously programmed during your upbringing that you need someone else to fill the gaps in your life. At times people feel that a spouse or a partner can do that for them. At times they fill that children can do that for them, and at times they feel like a psychic can do that for them. As long as someone outside of them can make them feel better, they’ll be OK.
Believe me I’ve been there and done that. I was in fact the queen of that kind of thinking. I was always looking for that outside factor to make me feel good, but guess what? I’ve never felt better until I’ve accepted the fact that only I could make myself feel good.
What about you? How do you feel about this? Are you still looking for that other person or other thing to make you feel good? Do you feel that if you consult a psychic that’s going to tell you what job or partner you’re going to find, you’re finally going to feel good? Well, think again!
Are you Refusing Responsibilities?
At times, a very easy way to refuse to take any responsibilities for what’s happening to us and our lack of success is to have someone telling us how it’s going to be. So, if it’s going to be in such and such a way, there’s nothing we can do about it, is there? Therefore, we don’t have to take any responsibility for our lack of success.
When you are looking for all made up answers to your life’s questions, you are making yourself weak, and a pray for whatever may come to you. You are ready to accept things as fate, as if you had no power to make your life better.
Even though that may not sound like something we would want to do as human beings, at times our subconscious refusal to accept responsibilities will make us act a certain way, so we can validate that type of belief.
But the truth is that refusing to accept responsibility for the quality of your life won’t make it better. No. It will make it much worse, as a matter of fact, until you finally wake up and decide to make some changes.
You Have the Power to Change
It’s time for you to take responsibilities, and take actions to design your life. No one can tell you what your life will be. You have a choice to create and design your life as you want it to be. Yes, it’s going to take more hands on than just go consult someone that will tell you a few things to make you feel better, but at least it will be worthwhile.
So, stop feeling like a victim, and start taking charge. If you need help, I can help you with that. All you need to do is let me know.
In the meantime, leave your comments below!
Hi Sylviane,
Fist I would like to thank you for the mention. When people are seeking help from a psychic, coach, therapist, etc. Some just want “the answer” and that just is not road to go down.
People need to take responsibility for themselves. When I do psychic consultations, I never tell people what to do. Yes, I am clairvoyant and can see into the future. But what good will that do a person if I tell them “this is going to happen” The future holds so many variables. It all depends on what the person will decide to do. So, instead I will say if you do “this”…that will happen….If you do “that”…this will happen. Explaining that they have free will and they need to make an effort to work on a problem.
Actually, as a psychic, I frequently tell my clients that they have work to do and offer them contacts I have like YOU..a life coach, or a therapist, whatever needed.
What people need to understand is that when they need help with something, a third party is needed. Life Coaching fits! When a person needs to change, there is work to be done, I know..I’ve done it myself lol.
This is why people need to step up, take responsibility for themselves and work at changing. It sure beats the pity party staying stagnant! No one can change things for you…It is just not the truth! We can only change ourselves.
Life Coaching is great because there is so much “stuff” in our subconscious that needs to be addressed to change and live a fulfilled life.
Thanks again!
-Donna
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Hi Donna,
Well, it’s very fit that you’re here first on this post, and since I’m kind of criticizing people who are looking to psychics to find all made up answers, I thought that mentioning you here and linking to both your interview and post was the best proof I could offer people who need to read this 🙂 Indeed, even if we can see into the future of a person, that future can change depending on the actions they’re taking. I totally understand this to be true.
According to the psychic I saw back in the late 1980’s in Paris, I was to have two curly children 😉 Oops! I raised to cats, does that count? I sure treated them like my children, though :0 My point is that’s not even healthy to take those news as set in stones, because while they may be so at times, they won’t other times. I’m sure this woman was right for a lot of her clients, but she sure wasn’t for me.
You and me know how much it takes to get the crap out of us, doesn’t it? LOL! So, yes, people do need coaches and guidance if they want to get ahead. If I had had a coach years ago, I’d would have been so much ahead than I’ve been until now. This is no joke, people need help in the area in order to start seeing the light. Plus it’s never handing. I keep on learning each day myself. Always 🙂
Thank you so much for your excellent feedback.
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Hi Sylviane,
I used to go to a very well known psychic in NY. She became a good friend and I knew her for years. She treated me like her daughter. It will be a year on July 4th of her passing. She was one of those psychics that was ‘right’ on it was scary. She was an amazing person and I remember one thing she told me in particular one time as we were just talking about ‘the gift.’ She said she would never tell a person if she saw a negative thing. For instance, if someone was going to get hit by a car, she would never tell that. She was always about enlightenment and encouragement which I loved about her.
I never went to her looking for answers. I always went to her looking for support. Sometimes it was for verification of what I was feeling…never looking for answers. So it definitely depends on the person/psychic.
I hope people reading this understand the difference. You’ve explained this so well. Interesting take on all.
Thanks for sharing more about how we can do it better using our own to improve.
Barbara
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Hi Barbara,
I can only imagine that she wouldn’t want to tell someone they’re going to die if this is what she’d see. Not a good idea, anyway.
That also shows that what’s the use in trying to have someone tell us what’s in our future? It’s energy not well spent, I think, no matter how good the psychic is or not. Now for support and verification of something we want to confirm, like you did, I think that’s the way to go about it.
Thank you for your input.
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Hey Sylviane,
I’ve been to a physic looking for the answers to my future. It was back when I had just left corporate America and I seriously did NOT have a plan. All I knew at that time was I would rather be poor and happy then well off and miserable. That’s all I knew so I was hoping that they could tell me that my future was bright. It’s not like I was looking for a crystal ball reading but just a verification that I was moving in the right direction.
Like you, nothing they shared with me has turned out. I think they were probably just trying to make me feel better about my future and grab my money and run. It wasn’t until several years later that I started to learn and understand their true purpose. Things change and we can change how things happen in our future.
I’ve always wondered if our lives are truly already mapped out for us. Although you “say” we can change the direction of our lives, maybe that’s also already mapped out too you know. We just don’t know it ourselves but everything we’re doing and learning was really the path we were meant to take in the first place.
I truly do believe we can create our own future and maybe this is the lesson we all have needed to learn all along.
Great share Sylviane, thank you.
~Adrienne
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Hi Adrienne,
We have something called “free will” which we all know. We can choose and as long we can choose no one could make me believe that everything we go through was planned. When I started to study Drama I chose it. When I got married too young, I chose it. When I came to live in the US, I chose it. All those 3 things have had a tremendous impact on my life, but nobody made do any of it. I did it!
As you and I know, some of those people who can supposedly see our future can be either totally dishonest or wrong. One day someone told me that for example, even a good psychic may be able to see something for one person, but not for another, so that another reason I’d say, what’s the point?
Thank you for coming and for your input.
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Hi Sylviane,
Great post as usual. I have never been to physics before but I know what they are about!!
The take away from this post is that we are responsible to take action and change ourselves to become what we want to be in the future. Yes, we can get directions from a coach but still if we didn’t take action to change, nothing will change.
As the saying goes, you can take the horse to the water but you can’t make it drink. So, we need to change from within and replace the scarcity mentality with the Abundance one by choosing to change our mindset.
Thanks for a great post Sylviane. You did a great job to get the message across. Have a great rest of the week.
Be Blessed,
Neamat
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Hi Neamat,
That’s an excellent input here, you can take the horse to the water, but you can’t make him drink, It certainly is the same thing with us. As I was just saying in my previous reply, we have free will, and we can use it the way we want. We can make decisions that will be affecting our life a great deal or we could not make such decisions. Either way that’s going to affect our lives in one way or another.
Thank you for your input and have a wonderful weekend.
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Hi Sylviane
Awesome post! I have been to physics in the past. It was before I had really delved into Law of Attraction and I think for me there was definitely an avoidance of responsibility.
As Adrienne said I at times have wondered if our life is all mapped out but that really does allow us to give up responsibility.
I have seen physics who have been fairly spot on and also had the experience you described where nothing comes true. These days I prefer to believe it is up to me.
I too used to look to others to make me happy. I had a huge thing on making various people a guru in my life. I have well moved on from that practice 🙂
Yes we do have the power to change. It is not easy and takes facing ourselves but yes we can do that.
Thanks for a great post Sylviane.
Sue
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Hi Sue,
Yes, as I was saying to Adrienne, while some psychics may be able to see some things for some people, that doesn’t even mean they can see it for everyone, I was told that many years ago, and that goes for the ones that are not just scams. An honest one would of course let the client know if they can’t see to see anything much.
Of course, most people who go see a psychic is because it’s the easy way (unless it’s more for guidance, like Donna does), but other than that it’s just an illusion, because whatever you’ve got to do has to be done for your life to get better.
Thanks for dropping by and have a wonderful weekend!
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You’ve shared quite a lot Sylviane!
But of all the extremely valid points that you’ve shared. If I had to boil it all down, I’d say that there are basically two distinct camps of thought here. First there are those that realize that they need to take personal responsibility for the eventual outcome for their lives!
And the flip side being, those that have already thrown in the towel and are merely looking for some outside source to verbally confirm what they already internally believe to be true!
I’m not trying to overly simplify your thoughts, it’s just so many people simply do not want to take an active role in their life’s outcome!
Because, just like you said, then they can avoid being blamed or held accountable for the eventual outcome!
Thanks so much for setting the record straight!
Hi Mark,
I had not even replied to you comment all this time. Sorry for that. Just been so darn busy border line overwhelmed these days.
You are completely right they’re two kind of people; those who take responsibility and those who don’t. You’ve very well said it. That is sad for the second group.
Thank you for your feedback.
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