Tomorrow it’s Thanksgiving Day, here in the United States. People will have a family dinner together and maybe give thanks in prayer or some other ways.
But is giving thanks something you do every day or just on Thanksgiving Day?
Have you ever experience the results of thankfulness and pomposity? Well, if you haven’t, let me tell you. Thankfulness and positivity can lead you to a quantum leap in your life.
Why Giving Thanks one Day in the Year is NOT Enough
Even if your thanks giving were felt deep down inside on Thanksgiving Day, it would certainly not be enough to change your life.
But why am I associating giving thanks to changing your life, in the first place?
Because being thankful and grateful for what you have and for what you want as if you already had it, is life changing. If you’ve never tried it, you’re probably not living the perfect life that you want right now.
So why not starting to overflow with thanks giving now and each and every day in order to accomplish what I call a quantum leap?
Let’s see how you can start doing this from today… but first…
What is a Quantum Leap?
If you’re not familiar with personal development you might be wondering what a quantum leap is. Well, a quantum leap is simply a huge change in your life. Of course, in this case, I’m referring to a positive change. The reason why I’m so motivated to write about this today is that I’m leaving a quantum leap right now, and when it’s all set and done I’ll be writing about it.
However, it’s not the first quantum lead I had in my life. I can actually count a few that stand out.
- When I moved to Paris to pursue my acting dream and found myself working with a handful of famous French actors
- When I moved to New York City where I knew absolutely no one
- When I accomplished my dream of speaking English and Spanish fluently
- When I totally changed my mind over and entered the personal development world full blast
As a matter of fact, the latter definitely the most life changing quantum leap I ever had, because it’s the one that helped me to totally change the way I was seeing the world, and changed some of the deepest beliefs that I had. Also this is my life long lasting quantum leap, and it’s here to stay.
As a matter of fact, it was a long way until I started to fully understand on what road I was really on, but I do know now, and things are really getting better and better for me. So much so, that I know that I’m coming close to another quantum leap, but for now that’s all I’m going to say, because you should never reveal those things to the world until they are fully materialized.
But what are the most essential elements that can bring you to a quantum leap? Three simple words, really.
1) Belief
BELIEVE that you can get to where you want to be.
2) Positivity
POSITIVELY affirm what you want each and every day without any doubt, as if you had it in your life already.
3) Gratefulness
Be GRATEFUL/ thankful for what you have and what you want ALL the time.
I only wish I had known to do this all throughout my life, but I would be lying to you if I said that I did. I most certainly didn’t. But if I look back on my list of quantum accomplishments, I realize to my own amazement that I did those things in those particular circumstances. I believed it, I spoke it and I used to pray for it (gave thanks). That’s why they happened.
But if it’s all that simple, why so many of us don’t live the life that we want?
Most People Live in a Fog of Negativity
Most people live in a fog of negativity. I like to use the word fog, because just like the literal fog it totally blocks their vision and all they can only see is what’s under their very nose. In worst case scenarios they can’t even see that.
Negative thinking can lead to unhappiness, failure, poverty, depression, stress and even disease. I can’t even say that negative thinking won’t lead you anywhere, it can actually lead you to an overall miserable life from start to finish.
I should know, a huge part of my life was based on negative thinking and it eventually lead me to lower than low. However, I’m happy to say that that life is now behind me, and it’s no longer part of me. Am I positive all the time? No (no body is), but I am positive most of the time, and that’s a huge difference from being negative most to of the time.
The problem with negative thinking is that most people whose thinking pattern is negative are not aware of it. If you’d point out to someone that they are negative they would most likely deny it.
Me? No way. I’m not negative!
Does that sound familiar?
Yet those same people often speak like this…
- What a bad day
- I’m exhausted
- I’m so tired of this
- I only wish
- This really pisses me off
- I can’t stand it
- I can’t afford it
- It’s way too expensive
- I feel like I’ll never get there
- What a pain in the ass
- Life suck…
Should I go on?
All those are affirmations all right. They are NEGATIVE affirmations, and by saying them you just confirm them to your subconscious mind and to the universe. They are part of your beliefs. If you notice that such affirmations come out of your mouth on a regular basis, then you KNOW that they are part of your beliefs.
I’m not going to pretend that I am perfect, that’s why I just attended a positive thinking seminar this past weekend, but I have totally eradicated some of those expressions from my vocabulary for a while now.
The first one I took care of was “I can’t afford it.” Gosh I hate that one. You should NEVER say this, under any circumstance. Every time I hear someone say “I can’t afford it”, I truly feel for them. Are you still saying such terribly negative affirmation?
If you do, please, do yourself a favor and stop NOW!
Come Out of the Fog
It’s time that you change your life by controlling your thoughts and feelings about things. Right now, at this very moment, there might not be much you can control in your life, but there is one thing that you CAN control. No matter what. That’s your thoughts. In turn, you thoughts will control your feelings.
Start each day with positive grateful thoughts and statements (also called self talk). Even if you wake up with a headache. Even if you get up sick that day. It means that you’re alive. Be thankful for it.
Start affirming that you are wealthy, rich, happy and in good health. It doesn’t matter if it’s not apparent right now, do not focus on that, focus on what you want as if it was already here. (did you noticed I didn’t say “not true” but “not apparent”).
Start affirming that you are who you want to be and that you have what you want.
Remember that your choice of words is very important. Think every word carefully. Avoid words such as:
- Don’t
- Can’t
- Should
- Shouldn’t
- Would
- Wouldn’t
- Will
- Won’t
Those words are confusing to your brain and send confused messages to the Universe, and you’ll never be able to attract anything of value by using them.
Become aware of your negative thoughts and replace them by positive ones by saying a positive affirmations.
How to Catch your Negative Thoughts?
The best and easiest way to catch your negative thoughts is by analyzing how you feel. If you feel bad, you can be sure that you’re having a negative thought. If you feel good, you most likely have a positive thought.
Do this exercise every day. If you can’t catch your thoughts very well yet – and it’s hard to catch all our thoughts – do a check point every 30 minutes to an hour and ask yourself, how do I feel now?
If you don’t feel great, analyze what are your thoughts at that moment, and you’ll see what exact thoughts are making you feeling down.
As soon as you’ve caught the source of your negative feelings, turn it around by affirming a positive statement and flipping your thoughts to positive ones.
This may take some discipline at first, but like anything, the more you’ll do this the easiest it will become, and before you know it you will be able to change your thought pattern.
So, in this Thanksgiving day, start giving thanks for everything in your life each and every day by being happy and thankful for it now.
Change your thoughts and it will change your life!
Please, leave your thoughts and feedback below…
Hi Sylviane,
I DO agree with you about giving thanks, not just on Thanskgiving, but making it a daily habit. Yes, people make certain days like Mother’s Day, or Valentine’s Day etc, but we really don’t have to keep ourselves restricted to what we feel only on those days! It must be a part of our daily life 🙂
Yes, I think most of us after a certain time phase of our lives, do go through a quantum leap – just as you went through so many in your life. We look forward to hearing about the latest one, whenever it materializes.
I liked the term ‘fog’ as you used it here, and that’s exactly how it is…we do use so many negative words that only bring more negativity into our lives. I guess we are so tuned to using it that we don’t realize we are saying those words, unless we make a sincere effort or follow the exercise you mentioned. Positive affirmations certainly DO have a positive impact.
Thanks for sharing this with us, and have a wonderful Thanksgiving tomorrow 🙂
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Hi Harleena,
Yes, it’s good to remember to be thankful on a daily basis, not only on some calendar set day of the year.
Most adult people living today didn’t have parents who were acquainted with personal development at all so for most of us it’s a learning process. No doubt. We are still learning and applying to better our lives.
Thank you for coming Harleena and thanks for your wishes 🙂
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Hi Sylviane,
I like the way you used the word “fog” because when negative it is like a fog around that person. One cannot see beyond themselves. Yuck! Yes, by analyzing ourselves when we are happy or sad is a great way to start knowing yourself.
All you have to do to come out of that fog when you are thinking negatively, or have emotions that are sad, angry, etc. is just stop for a moment. THINK! What prompted this? The more you do it the more the fog is lifted.
I also agree with you with that terrible phrase “I can’t afford it!” Oh my when I hear that from people, I just want to stand on my pulpit and tell them that they are attracting negative energy and they won’t go further with finances. Usually I hear it from people who do have money tucked away somewhere and it really riles me up! It is one of the most dangerous expressions one can say.
Your list is fabulous of people who think negatively and are not aware of it. The word Should is one of my pet peeves. When I hear that from someone I usually say to them “Don’t should on yourself” lol.
Great post and you are really bringing to light how people, aware or not, can keep on a positive track of mind!
-Donna
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Ah Donna, you’re so getting it! But again, you are a pro of those things 🙂
You’re right, while many broke people use the phrase “I can’t afford it” (which maintain them there) I know quite a few who actually CAN afford things, and yet they pronounce this stupid phrase. I can’t stand it!
The reason they do say this is actually way beyond their bank accounts, it’s a state of mind.
In my case, for example, God knows I’ve not rolled on gold in my life, but since I was a child I had rich tastes and hated poverty. I was never poor, but because of my behavior my mom used to call me “fille de riches” which means “daughter of the rich” 🙂 it’s only because of my stinking thinking that I didn’t really get there. You know how it is, one negative will take over two positives.
I’m so glad that you understand the negative underlining of the word “should.” I think that saying “don’t should yourself” really tells it all.
Thanks for coming and have a great Thanksgiving day!
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Hi Sylviane
This is truly an awesome post. I so agree with you that no one can by grateful for one day a year and live a fulfilled life. Gratitude must be a daily practice. Harleena referred to Valentines day and imagine how good any relationship would be if you only had romance once a year 🙂
I love how you gave those examples of negative thoughts. Often they are subtle but still have the same dangerous consequences. Things like “I am exhausted” may seem harmless enough but it is negative.
Awesome message Sylviane.
Sue
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Hi Sue,
Yes, words and statements that people make as simple as I’m exhausted can have more of a negative repercussion in their life than they think. Especially that it’s rarely something they are just going to say just once. It’s the repetition that’s dangerous.
Being grateful is an everyday event (or should be anyway). I thank thanks several times during the day… when I get up, when I walk, when I drive and before I fall asleep at least, sometimes even more 🙂
I know you don’t have Thanksgiving in Australia, so have a great normal day and thanks for coming, Sue.
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Hi Sylviane,
I agree, we should be giving thanks everyday not just once a year. Like Harleena said in her comment, it must be a part of our daily life.
I used to have a negative mindset and had some of those negative affirmations I think it was due to my depression…anyway I was always in this cloud or like you said fog, and was never happy….like something was missing.
When I realized it was my spirituality that needed nourishing I made up my mind to stop thinking and living negatively. I did like you, I spoke it, prayed for it and believed it and when it all came to pass, I was left amazed and I’ve believed ever since.
It does take discipline but we can control and stop any negative thought that pops in our minds. I love the exercise you shared and those essential elements. I agree those three are important.
This was a wonderful post Sylviane. Happy Thanksgiving. I hope you have a wonderful time with your family.
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Hi Corina,
I have to say that I was pretty much like you used to be. I was very depressed for years, and negative for the better part of it. A really mess. My chronic depression started when I was just a kid until 8 years ago, so that tells you!
At the same time, this has now become a blessing, because I can teach people even better because of it. I mean if I had a life on a bed of roses, how in the world would I be able to help others? Everything happens for a reason :).
Thank you so much for coming, Corina and have a great Thanksgiving day full of joy!
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Hi Sylviane,
As Sue said, “This is truly an awesome post.”
And I agree with you and Sue as I truly believe that no one can by grateful for one day a year and be done with it. Gratitude is an attitude and only then it has a meaning. Are we grateful for little-little things on a daily basis. Are we grateful that we are alive today? Are we grateful that we are healthy today? If we start counting, our everyday blessings are countless. Life is certainly amazing!
The only way I know to have a positive attitude is to overpower the negative with positive thoughts. Negative is automatic and it comes. The best way to overpower negative with positive is to read positive books, associate with positive, empowering people and speak positive – not just in front of others but in our heads when no one is listening.
And, there is nothing impossible for a man or a women with a positive mental attitude. Thank you for sharing and happy Thanksgiving to you!
Regards
~Kumar
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Hi Kumar,
I’m so glad you really seemed to like this post. When I complete a post I usually either love it or not :), and this one I loved it too myself. I thought that I brought my point across.
You’re right, negativity comes naturally, unfortunately, so we need to replace those negative thoughts by good ones. The options that you mention here are great tools to change our mind over.
Thanks for coming and have a fantastic day!
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Happy Thanksgiving Sylviane.
When I look at your list of accomplishments, I must say how proud I am of you.
It’s always great to see people take those quantum leaps and make something of themselves.
It’s also nice to see how you’re encouraging negative thinkers to step away from the fog.
In my heart, it is Thanksgiving every day. I am grateful for you, and the privilege of getting to know you.
I hope you enjoy a wonderful time with your loved ones.
All the best!
Bill
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Happy Thanksgiving to you too, Bill, and thank you for your kind words.
I think that encouraging people to think positive is for the own good of each one of us in this world, that’s why I’m going to make it my mission.
Have a wonderful day with your loved ones 🙂
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Hi Sylviane,
This was an inspiring post, indeed!
I could really resonate with your point about being thankful as much as possible and not just on Thanksgiving. It reminded me a little of Christmas. Many people seem to give thanks, be generous, charitable etc on this one day and then go back to ther normal ways for the rest of the year. This doesn’t make much sense.
Regarding your point about affirmations, my personal experience is that they do work. When we use the right type of language in our affirmations as you illustrated in your post, and say them with conviction, doing so can form a wonderful foundation for changing our thoughts and beliefs.
Happy Thanksgiving!
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Hi Hiten,
As I’m login to my blog to reply to the last comments I’ve missed so far, I am glad that you can confirm how much positive affirmations do work. This was the discussion I just had with a client few minutes ago. If only people would understand that it would make a world of a difference to them.
Thank you for your input, and have a great day.
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A simple thank you for every little thing that we receive means a lot already on how we perceive our life and on how we are going to live it.
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Hello Sylviane,
I really enjoyed your post. The type genius you exhibited must be the result of a lifetime of devotion to becoming better, fueled by the spirit of thanksgiving!
When the triad you mentioned, belief, positivity and gratitude are firmly engrained in one’s constitution, a super charged life is ensured. The belief helps you stay strong when you’ve got nothing; the positivity ensures that when you are close to receiving your gift, you don’t wager and gratitude ensures that when finally you get what you want, you remember to be grateful for it and in your own way, remember those who have nothing!
Thank you for taking your time to write such a detailed post. Do have a great day!
– Terungwa
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Hi Akkahan,
Very well said. We are what we makes ourselves to be. Our thoughts, words and actions make us who we become as individuals.
Thank you so much for coming.
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All I can say is good stuff Sylviane!! I’m not always happy but I try not to put it out to the universe either. My mom once told me that the devil can’t read your mind so if your sad, scared or lonely keep it to yourself and never speak it out.
I hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving 🙂
Hi Maria, and welcome here to my blog 🙂
Yes, true, it’s better to at least not voice your fears and doubts, but it’s not enough to remove them. To remove such negative energy we need to replace them by inputting positive affirmations and thoughts.
Thank you for coming and nice meeting you.
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A thankful heart will always go places, aside giving thanks to people to show appreciation, its also a strategy to get things and benefits from people.
On a personal note, I took a long inventory of what has been happening to me since January till now and all I can muster out is thank you God.
I love the comment by Maria Cruz, her mum infused an important element on how to tackle life issues into her.
Thanks Sylviane for sharing this inspiring content.
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Hi James,
That’s so great to be thankful as you are, James. Indeed, when we have fears and bad thoughts going on we need not to speak them up which would make them even worse, however, that would not be enough to remove them from us. We need to replace negative thoughts and feelings by good ones.
Thanks for coming James and have a wonderful day!
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I couldn’t agree with you more Sylviane and I’m also living proof of how your life can be if you give thanks every single day.
I love Thanksgiving, it’s one of my most favorite times of the year. I hope yours was wonderful by the way. Although this day has been in our history books for literally hundreds of years now I wish more people took the opportunity every single day to give thanks.
It’s really hard to stay in a negative place when you’re so grateful for all the small things. Heck, I’m grateful I’m alive and well today and if people have ever lost anyone close to them, they’d be thankful too.
I meet all these people online now that have so many health issues and family problems and I’m just so thankful that I don’t. Why is that? Probably because I thank God every single day for so many things and yes, for things that I know are still coming my way. It’s that believing that they will and just putting your trust in him. He’ll decide when the time is right, not us.
I love this topic, I can never get tired of reading about it because I know it’s going to help someone out there that really needs to hear it.
Thank you Sylviane for sharing this with us and sorry I’m so late in getting by. I really did enjoy my holiday weekend and hardly spent any time online! I’m regretting that today though but that’s okay, I’ll catch up! 😉
Enjoy your week.
~Adrienne
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Hi Adrienne,
Oh, nice to see you here. I really didn’t expected it, because I thought you’ve forgotten about this one 🙂 So, that’s why it took me a day to even find your comment, because I haven’t been on this blog yesterday at all.
You know it’s like a crazy dance between those 3 blogs even for replying to comments 🙂
I’m as much thankful for what I don’t have yet than I am for what I do have, so I totally understand what you’re saying here. At least 90% of what we get in life is due to how we think and what comes out of our mouth.
As Louis Hay says, we can’t be all positive 100% of the time but we need to reach a good 80% and our life will change so much, just because of that. I so know I can do 80% 🙂
Thank you for coming, Adrienne, it’s never too late!
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I see negativity as a good thing in disguise.
See, every time I’m in my head and/or having a negative thought, I take that as, “Hey Sebastian! Wake up! It’s time to be positive”
So the more negativity around me, the more I have to stop and become grateful.
Nice post, I liked it a lot!
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Hi Sebastian,
Yes, that’s a good way to see it, as long as you don’t linger in negativity and come out of it asap, that good.
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