The Law of Allowing has been said to be one of the most difficult to understand and apply Universal Law. However, understanding and applying this law of the Universe is very important if you want to be successful in life.
As you may know, my goal with this post series is to try my best to explain each one of the Laws of the Universe that are directly related to the Law of Attraction. Last week I started this series with the Law of Resistance, and you can read each post in no particular order regardless of what post you get to first.
The Two Sides of the Law of Allowing
There are two sides of the Law of Allowing:
1) Allowing good energy to you
2) Allowing other people to be who they are
As you will see by the end of this post, both sides are related.
Usually people who have a high spirituality level or have been meditating for years are doing pretty well with the law of allowing. On the other hand, considering the state of things in this world, it’s obvious that a lot of people not only don’t practice the Law of Allowing, but have no idea of what it is either. When you do practice the Law of Allowing you are at your extreme peaceful state of mind and a magnet for good things to come your way.
Allowing Good Energy to Pass Through You
The key to be able to attract good things to you is to allow good and positive energy. Don’t be fooled, though, there is no way that you can attract good things to your life if all you allow negative energy. To allow positive energy you first need to be “conscious” of such energy, of course, and with such consciousness comes knowledge and awareness that allows you to fix things.
As we discussed in my last post and even other previous posts, everything is energy. Your thoughts, your feelings, what you hear, what you touch, what you see… it’s all energy. To practice the Law of Allowing you need to replace negative energy by positive energy. For example, if you have a bad thought not only it’s not healthy and bad for you, but it blocks the Law of Allowing from doing its job. By simply chasing the negative thought and replacing it by a positive one you are opening the gates for the Law of Allowing.
Bad thoughts could be compared to a common cold virus. The cold virus will clog your respiratory system and you will have trouble breathing right and feel miserable. So, what do you do? You take medicine that will help you clear up your pipes and you will start breathing better and feeling much better too. Once you’re completely healed you are like a new person.
It’s exactly the same things with your brain. You need to clear up the thoughts that are clogging up your mind and are making you feel miserable by taking the “good thought” medicine, as much as you can. There are no potentially dangerous side effects, and it’s free (unlike cold medicine). As you’re healing your thoughts, and feelings you start feeling better, and the Law of Allowing can do its work. Good things can be allowed to come your way.
You can’t allow good things with negativity going on in your head, just like a cold virus won’t allow you to breathe right or feel good.
As I have said before throughout this blog, it’s impossible to catch ALL your negative thoughts, but when you develop more awareness, you can catch much more than you would if you hadn’t. It’s a practice. Like any other thing in life, the more you practice, the better you will get at catching yourself thinking negatively, and switching to better thoughts. Each time you do, you’re allowing the good to come your way.
Allowing Other People to Be Who They Are
The Universal Law of Allowing also means dropping all judgments and all emotional attachments to what others are, have, or do. This is quite different from being tolerant. Being tolerant is not liking what someone else is or does and holding emotion-laden, negative thoughts about them, but letting them be or do it any way. Practicing the Law of Allowing requires granting to others the same rights you ask for yourself – the right to be, do, and have whatever you choose without emotional attachment. Christy Whitman – Life Coach
Some people spend quite a bit of time and energy judging other people or running their own life based on what other people do, say or think of them. I should know. My Italian side of the family are masters at this, so they certainly helped me to dislike and stay away from that type of behavior early on in life.
A Huge part of the Law of Allowing is letting people be who they are without you being affected by it one little bit. I learned the whole meaning of this, especially within the past three years, and it really helped me have a totally different point of view about a lot of things.
Do not confuse letting people be with tolerance, however. There is a big difference between the two. When you just tolerate someone’s behavior which you don’t approve of, you are still judging such behavior and in most cases, you have a feeling that you’re right and they’re wrong. But because you’re being so good, you “tolerate” it. This is NOT applying the Law of Allowing.
When you allow someone to be who they are, you are NOT judging at ALL. You fully allow and respect who they are, what they do, what they believe in, what they think, etc. Without an ounce of judgment. I know this one is a tough one, I told you! But like the other part of the Law of Allowing, you can work on it and practice, until you get better at it.
Why does Allowing Others to Be Who They Are has Anything to do with your Success?
When you are bothered, annoyed or worse even angered by someone else’s behavior, way of life, etc… you are creating blocks for yourself. You are not allowing good and positive energy to come to you, but rather the bad and negative energy that comes with judging others.
In fact, while you are not affecting them at all, you are affecting yourself by not allowing the positive energy that is needed for you to bring success into your life. That’s why these two sides of the Law of Allowing are totally related.
This equation is this: Allowing positive energy + allowing others to be who they are = getting good positive energy back to you.
The human being is like a channel and our mind is the gate that lets or doesn’t let positive energy go through us. Knowing and applying the Law of Allowing brings better quality energy which in turn brings on a better quality of life.
So, what do you think? Do you have a better understanding of the law of allowing? Let us know your thoughts on that down below!
Also, See my post about the Law of Resistance.
Loved the clear way you explain things Sylviane!
Oh yes…I understood 🙂
But it sure is easier said than done and does need a lot of practice. I guess meditation and having a few moments of going deeper within your own-self would help to attain this Law of Allowing along with the positive energy to come within us and stay.
You are absolutely right about talking about there being a major difference between tolerance and letting go. Most of us are tolerating things or people because we don’t want them to affect us or our way of working. But the thought that we are tolerating them remains with us, which in a way is negative thought about them still…it doesn’t really become positive till we learn to let go and accept the person for who and what they are – without judging them anywhere (it sure is a tough thing!).
However, it all becomes easier and possible once you attain that level of spirituality or like we call it in our end reach “siddhi” that mainly the “yogis” or “gurus” can with ease as they are the people who reach this level over a period of time and after practicing it a great deal.
I loved the equation you shared in the end…so apt indeed 🙂
Thanks for sharing and letting us know about yet another important Law. Looking forward to the next one now. 🙂
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Hi Harleena,
I’m glad you appreciate this type of posts, Harleena. They are never too easy to write in a way that the info be understood by anyone, however, not too many people totally foreign to this will come here anyway 🙂
As you well know yourself, and as you mentioned, some people are able to reach this type of peace of mind and allowing, but for the rest of us it’s practice, no doubt. But it is totally possible. Will and practice will do it.
Thanks for your input 🙂
Hi Sylviane, I can relate to this because I’ve experienced times I’ve wanted to stop something and been aware of the energy pushing out from me towards the target and it seems logical that this energy might block something good coming in (as well as the something bad). Not liking something or someone would also send out a similar blocking energy, almost like a field and why shouldn’t that act as an indiscriminate barrier too? Makes complete sense.
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Hi Roz,
I am so glad that you can relate to this post. It’s a very good thing that you’ve experienced this type of “energy at work” so to speak, because it means that you are aware of what’s going on at this level. Many people don’t, you know. Good job on your part.
Thanks for your feedbacks 🙂
Another wonderful post Sylviane and I am not really that familiar with all of the different laws. I’ve heard about most of them but haven’t studied them for the most part. Guess that’s why I love what you share here on your blog.
I’ve told you in the past that one of my passions is helping people. It started off at a young age really. Not quite sure why all of my friends always came to be for advice but they did. One of the things that I’ve learned over the years is with most of my own personal relationships.
Just as you mentioned here, you need to “respect who they are, what they do, what they believe in, what they think, etc. Without an ounce of judgment.” You certainly wouldn’t want someone to disrespect you just because your beliefs are different. That’s why a lot of relationships go wrong. They are always trying to change the other person instead of just respecting who they are as a person.
I love this message Sylviane, thanks so much for sharing this one. Looking forward to learning more from you.
~Adrienne
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Hi Adrienne,
I’m glad you enjoy those post. I sure enjoy writing them, because as I write it always reinforce my awareness about what I write.
One thing that a lot of people don’t realize is that each of those universal laws when applied is for the own benefit of the one applying them. What one feels, thinks and so on never affect other people, but the one who has those thoughts and feelings. That’s what Terry Cole Wittaker explains so well in her book “What You Think of Me is None of My Business”. If you have never read this book, it’s a good read.
Thanks you for your input, Adrienne, as always 🙂
Hi Sylviane
I love this subject and I do think the law of allowing is the most difficult to understand. You have done a great job of explaining it.
Allowing other people to be who they are without judgement seems to be a big one for most people. Especially if the person is family.
Thanks Sylviane
Sue
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Hi Sue,
Thanks for coming and I’m glad you enjoyed reading the post.
Hello Sylviane, This post is deep. I agree with you about the negative energies. I really feel that we control our emotions and how we handle different things. I have learned in my life, as I have been here for quit awhile, that most issues are not worth getting upset over, and it is so true if you can block all the negative stuff out, it sure makes everything else work good. Thanks for the refreshing artical.
Hi Carol,
Yes, it’s very important that we allow good things by switching any bad thought we come across. Getting upset over things is not only not worth it, but bring about bad vibrations.
This is a marvelous post, Sylviane. I think not judging other people or wasting energy trying to change them (always a complete waste of time!) is one of the most enlightened and liberating things we can do.
When we try to manipulate other people to meet our requirements it just makes us miserable and frustrated – I think I read somewhere it’s like trying to teach a pig to sing – it gets you nowhere and just irritates the pig.
I’m not a great fan of Michael Jackson’s music (loved watching him dance, though) but this also reminds me of his ‘Man in the mirror’ song – about the fact that if you want to change the world you need to start with yours truly.
It’s tough, though – gossiping and criticising other people is so much easier than addressing our own flaws….
Many thanks for this, Sylviane – I must bear it in mind at work if I start getting drawn into that oh-so-seductive office gossip,
Sue
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I love your comment Sue and I had to laugh out loud of your pig example. So illustrate it well.
There is NOTHING that can change people if they don’t want to. It would be too long to tell my religious story here, but I’ve learned that there. I’ve studied human behaviors up close and personal for 10 years and I am convinced of that.
Yes, changing the world start within. This is so well explained in the book “What You Think of Me is None of My Business” by Terry Cole Whittaker where she explains how when someone shows love to you, it’s not because of their love, but because of yours.
Thank you so much for coming by 🙂
Cheers, Sylviane – thanks for the tip-off about the book by Terry Cole Whittaker – what a great title! I’ll have to check that one out,
Sue
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I love this one Sylviane, you can really waste a lot of energy try to change someone or not being happy about who they are. If you just allow them to be who they are and still be who you are you can create more positive energy around yourself. It may not always be easy either. Sue made a great point about the “man in the mirror” too. If you don’t like something change yourself or your reaction to it 🙂
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Hi Lisa,
Ah I love that law of attraction. I was on Adrienne’s blog earlier and I thought about hoping to your blog. Than I started replying to a bunch of comments and you just popped in 🙂
No doubt, that’s it’s just impossible to try to change people. People can only change when they’re ready for it. Some are, some will, and some won’t, ever. What we can do is work from the inside and the right people start showing up when we do that.
Thanks for your visit 🙂
Hi Sylviane,
It’s really true 🙂 If we tolerating someone’s behavior without accepting who he/she really is, we are wasting so much of our energy. And it doesn’t let us be who we are either, right? 😉 We always run around unwanted things in our mind in that case.
BUT here we go Sylviane. I need to be successful and I need my loved ones to be successful too. Well, it attaches with LOVE 🙂 I don’t wanna let my spouse, friend, colleague, children or whomever I love, let them be who they are. I mean if they follow bad stuff. So in that scenario, I just can’t wait and be idle accepting who they are. So instead of yelling, annoy ’em or blaming myself, we can create a positive background which helps understand they are into bad stuff, right? 🙂
Great post Sylviane 🙂 I’m lovin’ this series and questions on your way 😉
Cheers…
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Hi Mayura,
The more peaceful insight you will have the less likely you will attract people around you to have problems that will make you yell or be annoyed. Don’t forget that. Now if this happen to be the case, anyway, keep thinking positive thoughts about the person, visualize them well, peaceful, happy, etc… the more you do this the better the results you will experience.
Hope this help 🙂
Ah, another Law I never heard of! How many more do you have? I think you could write “The Book of Laws” 🙂
This one is very interesting. I completely agree that there is no sense (and even harm) in being angry or disapproving about someone else’s behavior. YOUR behavior is what matters. Chances are, if you complain about someone else, the only one who is going to care or be unhappy is YOU.
Dropping emotional attachments also sounds very Buddhist. I like what you said about just “letting it be”. Life can be so much more peaceful and we can really make a difference to our own happiness.
Thanks for sharing another great law!
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Hi Carolyn,
I’m glad I can help people discovering those important laws of he universe. They are important to not only understand but practice. You’re right, those laws are practiced and common in Buddhism. Those are laws that are as as old as the universe and been enjoyed by humans as long as we have existed.
As hard as it may be to understand someone’s behavior there is nothing we can help on their or our side by being negative about it. To just let it be is the best of all options.
Thanks for your input, Carol 🙂
I just love the very essence of this post!! It taught me a great lesson in just few simple steps. Indeed, the law of allowing is the most tedious to understand and practicing it is all the more cumbersome. I enjoyed reading the second side of this law i.e. allowing others to be themselves, I really want folks to understand this thing, that no two individuals are alike, if we spend the whole life judging people, we will surely be dearth of time when we think of loving them. Each and every individual should be given the opportunity to act at his or her will.
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Hi Aayna,
I’m glad you enjoy this post and thanks for your feedbacks 🙂
Hey Sylviane,
Good to be here and I see lots of interesting topics treated here.
I never hear of the Law of Allowing before 😉 I have decided to stick to this blog to learn more.
I got a copy of “13 steps to attract everything you want”. It’s going to be an interesting read.
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Hi Enstine,
So nice to meet you, and I’m so glad you’ve got the book. I hope you’ll enjoy it, and if you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask me.
I also hope you’ll enjoy this blog as well. I publish a long juicy post every Wednesday, and I get excellent feedbacks from people who enjoy these type of topics. I certainly enjoy writing them too 🙂
Thank you for coming.
Hi Sylviane. I have been studying this topic of the Law of Attraction very seriously these last few months. I actually accidently followed links to this article and found additional info on the other laws like the Law of Allowing. Great explanations for those of us currently studying this. Thank you. Great post.
Barbara
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Hi Barbara,
Thank you so much for your feedbacks and I’m glad you found this blog. This is my passion blog where I pour all that have learned through my 6 years of study as well as my own experience on the subject.
Thanks for coming.
Wow, Sylviane. I felt like you just gave me a mediation session. You make some good points. I can see the relation. I can appreciate an article that requires more than passivity.
You required your readers to think while reading and that is a great accomplishment. I get tired of reading the same information over and over. I like it when a blogger adds personality and character.
EBB
Thanks
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Hi Michael,
My! Thank you so much for your wonderful compliment. I really appreciate it. What better to hear that what you’ve written is different and makes you think. Wow, thank you Michael and I hope you’ll be back soon, then.
I do try my best to explain what I’ve learned over the years in a way that anyone can understand, because that’s the most important thing – understanding, right?
I will also definitely come by your place real soon too. I always visit my visitors 🙂
Take care!
As I was reading this post, I felt as though you were actually ‘talking to me’-as if you were there in the room and explaining the concept-like a teacher would to a student. I felt peaceful, and actually relaxed as i read through the whole thing. It is evident that you have put a great deal of thought in this article. I really felt totally inspired to take up meditation-which i used to regularly and then got caught up with work and life.( i feel embarrassed to even give such excuses). But such inspirational posts are indeed very helpful for people like me to take up these lost threads again. Thanks so much for taking the time to explain and reinforce.
Hi Sylviane! Thanks for another engrossing read–I personally think that when we allow others to hold us back us from becoming what we really want to be, we are making room for debilitation. Negativity is very limiting more so if we listen to individuals who discourage and hinder us from succeeding.
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Being too judgmental is downright cruel, we must allow others to be who they want to be the same way that we wouldn’t want them to meddle with our lives. At the end of the day, it’s all about the respect we want to extend even to those who belittle us. Thanks for the inspiring share!
This law of allowing kind of tells us to just be with the world and live in it. And by our existence, let others live happily too.
Hi Veronica,
Yes, that’s a good resume of the Law of Allowing.
The law of allowing is all about letting things be and getting contentmentin everything that comes along your way. It is self-fulfillment and happiness to let others live while you live.
Hi Kelly,
Yes, the Law of Allowing is about overall freedom of the mind. Thanks for your feedbacks.
Thanks for this insightful share, Sylviane.
You have explained it very well here. I do meditation and it really is very helpful in keeping the composure of the mind and helps me have clear and positive thoughts.
The most difficult thing though is to allow people to be who they are. We as humans are always judging or wanting to control other people’s life. I love a quote by Paulo Coelho in this respect- “Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.”
If we concentrate on improving our life and giving other people their proper space, life would be way better. We should be tolerant enough to respect the differences we have with someone rather than imposing our thinking and ideologies on them.
Hi Abhishek,
I love your comment. Yes, this world is a whole lot about judging people. Unfortunately it’s so common that it happens everyday, everywhere.
The best we can do is not be part of the mass in this regard, and let people be while we look at our own self.
Thanks for your insight 🙂
What ruins the flow of things is often our own fear and insecurity of allowing the unknown to take control of our lives. Humans are all deathly frightened of change, though positive changes are very much a real thing! To be happy, you need to learn how to let go of what’s troubling you, and just ride the waves of life as they come. Thanks for the inspirational article.
I’m sure you’re right. Judging others will create blocks to positive energy that tries to come my way. Thanks for lifting the cobwebs from my mind, I will try not to be angered by others’ behavior or conduct. Let them be the way they are will help me to get that positive energy that’s been eluding me for some time now.
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I believe that people just needs to be at peace with themselves in order to transcend peace with others. By letting yourself be happy with your life, you radiate happiness to other people.
Hi Sandra,
Yes, good points here, however, we should not confuse allowing the universe to deliver what we’ve been asking for and working for as fate. What people call fate is totally different and is usually linked to negative results. Just wanted to point this out.
Thank you for your input.